Hi everyone, I've never posted in here before, but here goes. Sorry it's a bit of a long one.
I've struggled with mental health issues for over 18 months now, but I think the problem probably started 4 and a half years ago when my granddad died because I don't think I've felt properly happy since then, it just took a while to get really bad. Anxiety was the one to hit first - I remember it was around this time last year that I started to really worry about my relationship with my boyfriend and it began to take over my life (although it had been quite bad for about 8 months by this point and I'd already had a couple of counselling sessions). I remember going about 4 days without eating properly just before I started uni again, followed by one day when my boyfriend wasn't great with replying to texts and I interpreted what he was saying to mean he wanted us to break up, which ended with me marching round to his house sobbing because I just wanted to see him for reassurance. After that, it just got continually worse. Got told in October last year that I had an anxiety problem that I should get help for when I went to get a repeat prescription for the Pill at the doctor's. It caused a lot of arguments with my boyfriend and my parents because I struggled to explain what was wrong, I spent a lot of time sobbing, shaking, feeling sick and not being able to eat because I was just so worried about everything, especially my relationship. The stress of uni might have contributed.
Around February, depression started to creep in too. I started to feel like I didn't want to get out of bed, like I wanted to just give up on everything, like I didn't want to exist anymore. I nearly broke up with my boyfriend because I didn't want to ruin our relationship and thought we should end on good terms before my illness meant things ended badly. I came back to uni to do my exams after Easter and finally started seeing a counsellor I liked after having issues with a previous counsellor not really understanding why I was there, and being referred to the wrong student support service the second time I registered for help. She was concerned about my constant high level of anxiety and thought I probably had depression too, and told me to see a GP, who was about to prescribe me some anti-depressants until I mentioned my exams starting the week after. I felt like I was making improvements with the counselling, but things still seemed to be getting worse for the first few weeks. I got particularly anxious the morning before one of my exams - I remember sitting in a café with my coursemates and crying and shaking - because I was scared about the exam and my relationship worries had really blown up in my head. Luckily on the way to the exam I happened to bump into my boyfriend on campus, and he was very reassuring and even asked if I wanted to be taken to see someone so I didn't have to sit the exam because I was in such a state. In the end I did sit the exam feeling calmer.
The next week, I suddenly had a breakthrough with counselling and starting thinking a lot more positively, and ever since then I have felt so much better in general. I tried to talk to my parents about how they might have affected things and what they could do to help but it didn't get the greatest response (they kind of took it personally) so I've left it. What I have noticed though is that if I'm placed in a stressful situation or something makes me feel really annoyed, I do start to feel anxious again. And also more and more in the last few weeks, I've felt like my issues are definitely still there, lurking under the surface, waiting for me to slip up with what I was doing to make myself better and it's frustrated me that I'll probably always have these issues and I might need to have counselling for the foreseeable future.
I'm scared about going back to uni because I'll be under stress a lot of the time when I'm there because it'll be my third year so I can imagine the workload will increase from last year. I'll get to see my boyfriend more often, I'll have the support of my flatmates and other close friends and I'm also looking forward to being away from home because I sometimes feel like there's a lot of negativity here, but I don't think I could handle it if I went back to feeling like how I did last year. I don't think my boyfriend could handle it either and I don't think our relationship would survive. It got put under a lot of strain when I was really bad and I like to think we're stronger for it and he's a lot more understanding now, but I don't want to put him through all of that again. I love him and care about him more than anything else and it was horrible to see how much it upset him to see me so sad. I've told him that if he thinks I'm getting bad again to make me see a doctor ASAP to get it sorted out, but he's said he thinks I'll be fine because he thinks I've done really well. I also feel like I won't do as well as I know I can in my degree if I'm having to fight against my own brain all of the time because it's exhausting. I still don't feel like I can tell my parents anything about how I'm feeling because of how they responded last time.
I'll probably register for counselling again when I go back because the counsellor I saw before wants to see me again and I think it might be a good idea to stop everything from building up like it did (because I think that was why it got so bad) but (and I know this isn't true, but it doesn't stop me from thinking it anyway) I feel so weak for needing help dealing with things when there are people in much worse life situations than I am who don't. My boyfriend's way of dealing with things is to not think about them but I'm the complete opposite! And I don't want him to feel like he has to be my emotional support all of the time when he as enough things to deal with in his own life.
I didn't really intend this post to be so long, so thank you if you've read it all. I guess I just wanted to vent about it and TSR seemed like a good place to do that.