Being called an anorexic... [Male]

First off, this has been a constant theme throughout my life. I have always been skinny, as a child, as a teen and now as a man (i'm 19). My childhood scarred me pretty well when it came to eating. I was fussy with food, I admit that, and I still am, however, I definitely eat 3 meals a day, plus snacks, so there's nothing wrong in that department.

I wasn't bullied, but there's always been comments that have built up over the years. More recently, as a matter of fact, today my "friend" called me anorexic and that I looked 'undernourished'. This was simply to get at me (trust me, I know). He is also aware of my vegetarianism and ate a meat sandwich right in my face. I have always tolerated his lifestyle, as everyone else's, but once again I am under attack.

I walked away from him after a heated argument and told him to stay away from me. He appeared apologetic, but it has just simply crossed the line. I feel like killing myself, everyone is out to get me, I can feel it. It's suffocating me.

I swivel from 134 to 138 lbs and I'm 6 foot. I get that I'm on the lean-side, but I'm borderline ideal on the BMI scale and I feel fine.

As a male, I also realize that it's uncommon for a guy like me to be in a situation like this. No offence to the girls, of course, it's just a much more female-dominated struggle due to societal pressures. For me, I simply cannot put weight on and these comments are driving me insane.

I can't breath.

Noo, join the dark side.

Been there, never going back, not fun being a lanky streak of piss

Not to worry. I prefer the slightly ripped look actually. Just not on me, if ya know what I mean. A lanky streak of piss? You wound me. It's called being petite.

I thought petite meant small, I'm taller than most people

First off, this has been a constant theme throughout my life. I have always been skinny, as a child, as a teen and now as a man (i'm 19). My childhood scarred me pretty well when it came to eating. I was fussy with food, I admit that, and I still am, however, I definitely eat 3 meals a day, plus snacks, so there's nothing wrong in that department.

I wasn't bullied, but there's always been comments that have built up over the years. More recently, as a matter of fact, today my "friend" called me anorexic and that I looked 'undernourished'. This was simply to get at me (trust me, I know). He is also aware of my vegetarianism and ate a meat sandwich right in my face. I have always tolerated his lifestyle, as everyone else's, but once again I am under attack.

I walked away from him after a heated argument and told him to stay away from me. He appeared apologetic, but it has just simply crossed the line. I feel like killing myself, everyone is out to get me, I can feel it. It's suffocating me.

I swivel from 134 to 138 lbs and I'm 6 foot. I get that I'm on the lean-side, but I'm borderline ideal on the BMI scale and I feel fine.

As a male, I also realize that it's uncommon for a guy like me to be in a situation like this. No offence to the girls, of course, it's just a much more female-dominated struggle due to societal pressures. For me, I simply cannot put weight on and these comments are driving me insane.

I can't breath.

Thank you. That made me feel a bit better.



Yeah, I keep telling myself to start working out, but I never get around to it. That's my own fault.



Maybe. I don't always feel this way. I seem to take instances and arguments 10x more seriously than other people. It really gets me down.

Don't really see what the problem is? They just care about your well being. It's a bit ironic because today on the radio they were walking about how male anorexia often just goes unnoticed/ignored.

Things can change. I was 6'2'' 140lbs 3.5 years ago. I'm currently nearly 240lbs, with a lean mass weight of 175lbs - I need to cut atm due to a period of inactivity through illness pretty recently and still eating loads through that period, but I'm about 190lbs when lean.

Three meals a day with snacks doesn't tell us much and doesn't sound promising tbh, due to your self-confessed fussiness with food and lack of weight gain it sounds like they're not very sizeable meals. I know first hand what it's like to be labelled "that guy that eats loads and never gains weight" but when I assessed my average weekly caloric intake, it became clear that I was undereating. Of course, it's not a great idea to just gain fat as you won't look any better for it and probably just end up with a bit of a belly, so hitting some weights and learning to eat more is the way to go if being skinny is bothering you.

Umm you're talking nonsense. Clearly it was an insult because of his weight. His friend would've known that he eats 3 meals a day. Anorexic people don't do that. Concerned for his health my arse.

There are many types of eating disorders and some include binge eating and then exercising excessively, or throwing up. And how would his friend know that anyway? He's not with him 24/7.

We're talking about anorexia here, not all the eating disorders under the face of the earth. If they go/went to school together, he'd know, it's that simple.

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Well this is what many people with anorexia do also. No offense but I think you have a very limited knowledge on ED subject, possibly distorted by the mainstream media (nothing wrong with that obviously, just pointing out that it honestly is not that simple).

You're wrong. My knowledge on eating disorders is very extensive because my cousin went through it and I had no idea how to help her so I did days of research along with accompanying her to psychiatrist visits. So next time keep your assumptions to yourself.

Well, feel free to do some more research if you think that I'm making things up here *shrugs*, you'll find out the truth yourself.

I didn't say you're making things up at all. But it's easy to notice if someone has anorexia...

Well OP, consider the fact that you weigh around 60kg... I weigh around 50kg and the most I've ever weight is 55kg :/ I'm 17...RIP

I didn't say you're making things up at all. But it's easy to notice if someone has anorexia...

@Kindred Yeah, I get that health and appearance isn't always mutually exclusive. What he said raised serious doubts about whether or not I can talk to him again. It just seemed to aggressive and unnecessary. I don't think I can be around people like that... And thank you, I'm considering seeing a GP. I hope your depression has gotten better.