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Not telling my family my exam results?

Do they have a right to be annoyed at me for this? Is it selfish of me?

Little bit of background: I'm 18 and finished 1st year of uni, I rushed into choosing my course as I had no idea what I wanted to do. I didn't really like it and I had resits which I'm pretty sure I've failed.

I've decided not to tell my parents and the rest of my family the outcome of these until I've made my decision about where to go from here regarding my future. The reason being, I know that right now this decision has to be mine and my family are quite pushy.

My family are all really annoyed now as they don't trust me enough to make my own career choices and they say I'm immature and selfish.

What's your opinion? Am I wrong for doing this?

Reply 1

gobbybobbyy

You should talk to your family about failing uni, they will have to find out sooner or later, I myself failed 2 modules this year (first year if uni) and am pretty sure I passed the retake of one, but unsure if I have passed the other. I had to pay £100 in fees for the modules I failed. I have financial obligations on rent, that I have already started paying so if I don;t make the second year I will have to find someone to take my place in the house I am living pretty quick, I am already £600 in the red and the year has not even started!

If you knew you where gonna fail, did u make plans for accommodation next year, maybe you should have dropped out earlier or switched courses, most unis have advisors you can speak to on these kinds of things. Did you enjoy uni life, the going out ETC? I did A bit too much which is why I am in the **** :P

Your gonna have to pay the new tuition fees if you start a new course (Up to £9,000), as well as be in debt for the year you have undertaken with the student loans company.

You parents are likely to be angry if you have failed the first year, especially if your living with them right now, they may be less a angry if your truthful with them, but there your parents, I have no idea how they will react. Best thing to do is to talk to them.

Best of luck

gobbybobby.

Reply 2

AJ Smiley

Thanks for your advice there. It's not really a case of me not wanting them to find out I've failed. I'm pretty open with my parents they are just really pushy and I want this decision to be all my own so that I don't have regrets.

I'm in Scotland so the financial difficulties aren't really the same, I stay at home and I didn't take out a loan as I wasn't sure uni was for me. I've worked all this year to keep on top financially and I could never afford to resit.

I think I'm going to go speak to a career advisor or something, I didn't actually get to enjoy uni life that much, never really got to go out partying etc :frown:

I think that's partly why I failed because I was/still am so unhappy. I'm a carer for my mum so that plus a job made it hard to study and socialise.

All the best of luck for you! Are you able to carry the module forward? Hope it all works out alright :smile: