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(Anyone) what would you do if your daughter became a topless model

or pornstar?
Honour kill?
Disown her?
Accept it and be happy for her?

Just for fun, asking this.

(edited 8 years ago)

I know I may sound like an overly liberal person here, but if my daughter was a topless model or a pornstar and she felt COMFORTABLE in her profession then I would whole-heartedly support her. Obviously it wouldn't be my preferred profession for her but who am I to decide what she can and can not do? As soon as she told me she wants to go into topless modelling or the porn industry then I would sit down with her and firstly make sure that she chose the profession herself and WAS NOT forced into it and secondly that she is actually happy within the profession. If she is then great: her happiness would be my happiness. I wouldn't be one of those aggressive parents who would immediately break all relations with their daughter or worse. I would tell her about the possible negative side effects of what she is doing (the taunts from other people, the possible body consciousness issues she could develop, the need to be safe), but if she maturely understands the pros and cons of what she is doing and I genuinely feel as if she is well-informed enough on the goods and bads of her decision then she can go for it; I would just be pre-warning her that it would be tough, so it's not like I'd let her go into it with closed eyes. :smile:

We should accept what our children want to do when they are adults. Yes we should advise them on the good and bad effects of their decisions to ensure that they think rationally instead of spontaneously, but that does not mean that we should stop them: once they are 18 years old they are capable enough to make their own decisions: we give birth to them, we are not conjoined to them.

I know people will read this and think I'd make a careless parent but I wouldn't: I'd be a BALANCED parent because without any bias I would tell her the negative effects of her decision and the positives equally. It all depends on how comfortable and happy our children are in what they are doing, not how comfortable or happy we are.

Reply 2

PinkMobilePhone

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Topless model, fine, I'd support her.

Pornstar - depends what she was doing. Amateur porn with a partner, well that's her own affair. Professional pornstar having sex with people she's not in a committed relationship with, I wouldn't be as cool about that because several porn stars have contracted HIV relatively recently, in America I think but obviously it can happen anywhere if condoms are not being used. I'd sit her down and have a talk with her about the dangers of sexually transmitted diseases, and urge her to think about her options.

Would I feel ashamed of her or anything? No. It's her body and to be honest it's easy money.

Reply 3

gemmam

I probably wouldn't be too pleased but I'd accept it.

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Reply 4

Limpopo

Original post by Shostakovish

or pornstar?
Honour kill?
Disown her?
Accept it and be happy for her?

Maybe I'd still be bathing her..

Honour kill

Original post by Anonynous

Honour kill

Nah I couldn't this no matter how furious I was...

I would be heavily disappointed and angry with her lack of ambition and stupidity bringing disgrace to me.

Reply 7

EnolaGay

No.. Just not acceptable to me. Or it's going to be hard accepting it.. :s-smilie:

Disown her.

I'd be jealous of her boobs. Topless model fine, pornstar I'd be worried but if she knew what she was doing then it's her choice.

Reply 10

LonelyDemon

I would tell her to get a real job that requires hard work. Any girl can get her tits out.

Reply 11

Rakas21

It's not the actual career that would bother me, it can be an easy way to make money. What would bother me is whether this was representative of a laizee fair attitude to genetic reproduction. If at all possible i will be encouraging her to mate with somebody who's had their DNA mapped and displays strong psychological traits so that she can produce superior genetic offspring.

Reply 12

keturah

I wouldn't mind if she became a topless model. I would try discourage her from becoming a porn star, but even if I disapproved I'd never disown her.

Reply 13

Jemma Hants

Very interesting post.
My Niece is in the industry and absolutely loves her work.
With the right family / friend support the adult industry can be a good place to make a career.