Haven’t made my friends for Life
So yh I’m 18.
I have finished A-Levels.
I use to be an introvert person until my late 17.
I made friends in my 2nd year of A-Level but realised the quality wasn’t great. As in outside of school we would never message or do something together.
Now it’s summer holidays and I see my other friends doing things together and they aren’t messaging me. As in I was cool with but I wasn’t alway hanging out with them. I haven’t messaged them either so it’s kinda my fault as well but it’s because I never went to a deep connection with my best friends I hanged out with. They just seemed not very welcoming if you get what I mean.
I am going university this year and I must and hope I make life long friends because the past 18 years I regret it all being an introvert and feel like I wasted my life and could of had so much more fun.
I do also believe as my college friends are hanging out this will get less once they go in siffernent paths so I would guarantee they will be life long friends but they are in a better position than me.
I have finished A-Levels.
I use to be an introvert person until my late 17.
I made friends in my 2nd year of A-Level but realised the quality wasn’t great. As in outside of school we would never message or do something together.
Now it’s summer holidays and I see my other friends doing things together and they aren’t messaging me. As in I was cool with but I wasn’t alway hanging out with them. I haven’t messaged them either so it’s kinda my fault as well but it’s because I never went to a deep connection with my best friends I hanged out with. They just seemed not very welcoming if you get what I mean.
I am going university this year and I must and hope I make life long friends because the past 18 years I regret it all being an introvert and feel like I wasted my life and could of had so much more fun.
I do also believe as my college friends are hanging out this will get less once they go in siffernent paths so I would guarantee they will be life long friends but they are in a better position than me.
Original post by Ghostlady
My daughter didnt make friends for life in sixth form. She had friends but not ones that she could call close and they went separate ways. It was 2nd year in uni she did. (first year was covid year so tricky) She found her people and they are very close 
I hope so I just wanna have be happy but honestly I want university to start quickly to start socialising again.
I just learnt that if you don’t find your comfort zone quickly with the people you hang out with change them until you become really close.
Original post by zayn_24
I hope so I just wanna have be happy but honestly I want university to start quickly to start socialising again.
I just learnt that if you don’t find your comfort zone quickly with the people you hang out with change them until you become really close.
I just learnt that if you don’t find your comfort zone quickly with the people you hang out with change them until you become really close.
At uni its good to have pockets of friends of different groups. So like flatmates, society friends, friends from your subject group. They might not be close buddies to start with, but some will develop into close friends. Also by making the effort to get to know people, you are keeping busy at uni and not sat in your room all lonely.
So yes join societies, 2 or 3 if you can.
My daughter found her friendship group in the unlikeliest of places too, the greggs queue. She got chatting to a girl there, and she was part of a pub quiz team in the city. So daughter joined. Although shes not close friends with the initial girl she was chatting with, its the quiz team shes really close to and often goes to friends for dinner.
Her flatmate group, this was during covid year and they were close, but by year 2, they all drifted into their own friendship groups. So she was living with 7 of the 11 first year in year 2, but they barely saw each other much, so in the December of year 2, she went into private halls with completely new people and in year 3 made two good friends there.
Her society group, she got some friends from the lgbqia+ and although shes not close close, she still enjoys her time there.
Her subject groups, these developed into close friends from the get go. She joined the facebook freshers group and from there went onto groups on whatsapp/snapchat etc and during covid year of 2020 they went on teams in the summer to host quizzes. Then come august of 2020, she met up with them whilst us parents look at a look round the uni city. Out of about 10 of them, 3 became close friends, and they often study together or go to the pub for a meal from time to time.
This is just her story, and you will find your own way of doing things.
Honestly I don't really believe in the concept of "friends for life" at all. I actually think it's a bit of a damaging concept really. Yes, sometimes you might become friends with someone and circumstances mean you remain in contact for the rest of your lives. However for most people, you make friends relative to the exact circumstances you are in, and inevitably when they change for one or both parts the friendship usually fades. That's not a moral failure or anything on anyone's part, it's just the nature of life.
It's far better to focus on your friends for the situation you are in, and appreciate them and engage with them actively while you are in that situation, than trying to weigh up whether they are "friends for life" and miss out on the experiences now. Make new friends and focus on enjoying it while you are there in the moment, and if it doesn't work out longer term recognise you can and will make new friends later too.
It's far better to focus on your friends for the situation you are in, and appreciate them and engage with them actively while you are in that situation, than trying to weigh up whether they are "friends for life" and miss out on the experiences now. Make new friends and focus on enjoying it while you are there in the moment, and if it doesn't work out longer term recognise you can and will make new friends later too.
Original post by zayn_24
So yh I’m 18.
I have finished A-Levels.
I use to be an introvert person until my late 17.
I made friends in my 2nd year of A-Level but realised the quality wasn’t great. As in outside of school we would never message or do something together.
Now it’s summer holidays and I see my other friends doing things together and they aren’t messaging me. As in I was cool with but I wasn’t alway hanging out with them. I haven’t messaged them either so it’s kinda my fault as well but it’s because I never went to a deep connection with my best friends I hanged out with. They just seemed not very welcoming if you get what I mean.
I am going university this year and I must and hope I make life long friends because the past 18 years I regret it all being an introvert and feel like I wasted my life and could of had so much more fun.
I do also believe as my college friends are hanging out this will get less once they go in siffernent paths so I would guarantee they will be life long friends but they are in a better position than me.
I have finished A-Levels.
I use to be an introvert person until my late 17.
I made friends in my 2nd year of A-Level but realised the quality wasn’t great. As in outside of school we would never message or do something together.
Now it’s summer holidays and I see my other friends doing things together and they aren’t messaging me. As in I was cool with but I wasn’t alway hanging out with them. I haven’t messaged them either so it’s kinda my fault as well but it’s because I never went to a deep connection with my best friends I hanged out with. They just seemed not very welcoming if you get what I mean.
I am going university this year and I must and hope I make life long friends because the past 18 years I regret it all being an introvert and feel like I wasted my life and could of had so much more fun.
I do also believe as my college friends are hanging out this will get less once they go in siffernent paths so I would guarantee they will be life long friends but they are in a better position than me.
u have sm time to make them, dont overthink and dont worry!
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