Paranoid that my private Snapchat convo will be leaked

So some girl added me on Snapchat and I added her back; we played video games together for about an hour and she immediately started making sexual advancements towards me. I suspected something, but my desperate mindset fell for it. She then unadded me on Snapchat and blocked me on every social account she had. Now I'm scared that she might have taken screenshots of my sexually-charged convo after she unadded me and posted it on her public story. I'm scared because there's the risk of one of my friends on snap scrolling through Discover and finding me in her story and being disgusted at me, which will then cause a chain of events in which I lose all my friends on Snapchat, the info gets leaked to my entire school, I lose all my instagram followers, and my life will be ruined.

I need help, what am I supposed to do about this paranoia? Is it too late to stop it from here?

Out of curiosity the notifications to your snap are they muted or they switched on?

Switched on

So you’d have noticed if screenshots were taken then

yes, but she unadded me so I'm scared she might have screenshotted after she unadded me so I wouldnt get the notification

Or think this you probably creeped her out or made her to the point she felt uncomfortable and she decided she had no choice but to unadd and remove you.

I thought this too, but I realized that she made sexual advances toward me first. Why would she be uncomfortable with something that she started?

Maybe she found you too of a creep and beyond her comfort zone hence why she thought a bit of revenge.

So some girl added me on Snapchat and I added her back; we played video games together for about an hour and she immediately started making sexual advancements towards me. I suspected something, but my desperate mindset fell for it. She then unadded me on Snapchat and blocked me on every social account she had. Now I'm scared that she might have taken screenshots of my sexually-charged convo after she unadded me and posted it on her public story. I'm scared because there's the risk of one of my friends on snap scrolling through Discover and finding me in her story and being disgusted at me, which will then cause a chain of events in which I lose all my friends on Snapchat, the info gets leaked to my entire school, I lose all my instagram followers, and my life will be ruined.

I need help, what am I supposed to do about this paranoia? Is it too late to stop it from here?

dude what makes u think she's gonna leak it so bad . actually dw id probs b overthinking like crazy too😭😭😭. maybe this was her first time doin anythin sexual and then she kinda freaked out halfway thru n felt guilty or smth abt it n then decided to juss try and throw it behind her by blocking u on everything n pretending like it didnt happen 😭😭😭?????

I just went through this. I will give my experience, and advice, and action that I would advise to pursue.
I also had a sexually-charged conversation with someone on Reddit, and the person and I exchanged Instagram nicknames, which granted him instant access to my followers. Big mistake, yes I know, bite me. He did leak an excerpt, and of course he made private accounts, to this day that have not been taken down. He has not done anything since March 25th (the day the leaks happened). And I doubt he will, as per advice given to me by others on TSR + gut feeling.

If I were you, tell your friends to IMMEDIATELY block this person. But they will not block it. Because they need spice.

Look, let me tell you the STOIC path you should take.

We all do mistakes. We all do stupid things, which lead us to awkward moments. I say to that, SO WHAT? I am 16. People found out I was a porn addict for 5 years. They have screenshots that I went on Reddit and I said, I AM STRUGGLING! They gave me hell for the convo. I regret my mistakes, but I MUST MOVE ON. I WILL NOT LET NEGATIVITY STOP ME. I was cancelled. A lot. And people spread this personal thing about me, thinking I would remain silent. They were right. Until now.
Just laugh it out. You have learnt your lesson - do not have sexually-charged conversations with people online. It will lead to a stressful situation like this.

Of course, the point stands that if a screenshot is taken, you would be informed of it, BUT I will still advise you to tell your mates to block this person, and preserve any chat documentation. I am pessimistic about the screenshotting of the chat, but now that you are in water that you cannot measure the temperature of, it is best to get out of it.

You have learnt that the Internet can either be a wonderful place, or it can have such a dark side.


Now for the action/thriller part: READ THIS!
How to check if those screenshots have been leaked, and how to LOCKDOWN (you read that right) ALL YOUR SOCIAL MEDIA ACCOUNTS, GIVING YOU UNMATHCED PRIVACY! I am not only referring to this situation, but these are general skills everyone should have.

Number 1: Google Alerts. Wonderful, fabulous thing. Basically, put in a search name, a new result comes in it, you will be informed. You can say, put, your name, full name, keywords along your full name, keywords relating to the context of the convo, relating to social media, etc etc. You can then manually verify the results. This only works for Google as far as I know, but it is a brilliant stepping stone.

Number 2: PRIVACY! I dislike one thing about social media. A lot of them want to give this hassle-free experience, in which what happens is you link your social media accounts together. DO NOT DO THAT! Remove any links between Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat etc that lead to another page of/about you! This massively solves problems pertaining to privacy. Go to your FB, Twitter or whatever SM account you have, and MAXIMISE THE PRIVACY SETTINGS. REMOVE MOBILE NUMBER, EMAIL ID, BIRTHDAY, DOB, AND PERSONALLY IDENTIFIABLE INFO.

Number 3: GDPR. If you live in an EU-member state or other countries that follow a framework similar to GDPR (shorthand for GENERAL DATA PROTECTION REGULATION) and God Forbid you find the search results online, you can tell search engines to block the search results from appearing on .com (if memory serves correct) and domains that are in the EU, such as .pl for Poland, .de for Germany, .cz for Czechia etc. I mean, as far as I remember, 27 countries follow GDPR. Quite a big number, in my humble opinion.

Number 4: Reporting and Documentation, your best friend. You mentioned that you fear this scammer posted this on public story. If you have proof of this, send this to Meta/Facebook/Snapchat help team immediately. This will make the account go away. Also, perhaps Meta can filter out those specific posts, but do not bank upon this option excessively

Number 5: Diplomacy. Do NOT stoop down to the scammer's level, by making a fake account and contacting the scammer. Nope. Not going to do that. This will only exacerbate the situation. I would rather recommend something contrary - play it cool. If the scammer attempts to contact you, regardless of blackmail or not, you will instantly have proof that you are being blackmailed. And you know who loves proof? It is this wonderful thing called Law Enforcement. DO NOT SEND THE SCREENSHOTS TO THE SCAMMER! BIG NO! You never let people know you have the 'smoking gun' (metaphor). You use it when you are in a tight spot.

Number 6: Truth, the best weapon. But it is by far, the most difficult one to do, and I would not recommend going down this path, but I will list it. Maybe it might fit your circumstance.
Truth by far, is the best weapon one can have (metaphor). You can use it greatly to your advantage. Do NOT go on a mic and say to the whole school that you had this problem. If you have a trusted friend group, then go ahead and tell them that you did a mistake and do not judge me for it. If you do not have any friends in school, that is the best thing. Why? Because you can then show that you do not care what people think. You do not need to justify your actions to anyone. You know what you did wrong. You yourself writing this thread, and admitting to the fact that you suspected something but you were desperate and took the bait, actually shows me you are a very very strong person at heart. And if people fail to recognise that, then for sure it is not your problem. Admitting one's mistake is the trait of the strong, not of the weak. Saying in your mind and to your near ones, that you have something you want to work upon, is your greatest strength, ever.

Problems come, Problems go. But the person at heart, remains. Do not stress about life. Be a goddamn Churchillian. Do not lose courage, Do not lose your strength and your smile and do not give in to stress.


I hope, my response was of, if not full, at least some help.

Sending happiness and hope and courage.

I forgot to add one thing.

Here is the thing - although I outlined a lot of actions that can be taken, I am 100% sure the person on the other side will not do anything, because it would also cause her embarrassment. Think about it. Mutually assured destruction, so-to-speak.

Do not take stress, you have learnt your lesson, move on. Cheers

I dont have a acc and I just ghost on this forum, however I create an account just to appluad and say that your advice is very useful and isnt crap like other advice in this forum. Just wanted to give u recognition because those tips should be pinned and hightlighted because alot of youth do stupid stuff online because theyre in their heat and dont know how to deal with those consequences. Anyways I just want to say thank you on behalf of others and myself and have a good day.

Aww

That is very sweet and gracious of you. Thank youuu


I felt powerless and depressed for a long time, and I do not want others to go down this rabbit hole. If my experience can help people, then nothing more could make me happier. These mechanisms are in place because such incidents happen everyday, and we must be aware that we can take action, and use it to shield ourselves. We all do stupid things but that does not define our personality.

Cheers!

Well said!
The problem with a lot of people is that once they make the mistake they regret it then fall into self blame and depression. Regretting is good, but the next step should be accepting what happened because the past cannot be changed. Thats another reason why I had to commend you on my prior post, most people give up and take the path which makes them live in the past (self blame, depression, trying to escape reality and maybe suicide)

Few can keep their heads up and persist in fighting in their mistake and then getting over it completely. And then after that helping others in the same situation. Most cannot do that, few persist and evolve from that situation.

Its always difficult and hard, however at the end, and I am guessing for you aswell. You most definetely are stronger and more capable person than before. Sometimes failure is essential (this is how I see it, because once the mistake is made - regardless of how shameful or embarrasing it is, overcoming it and not doing it again is key) and it allows people to shred their prior naive self.

Lets hope the OP can do this too, and make use of your advice, his situation isnt too dire though, there have been worse cases which I have seen. And I just wanted to let you know again, dont forget you are of the few who succeeded and now, despite your past mistakes, you have evolved from your prior self. Anyone can work out their bodies to become strong, but honing yourself mentally isnt easy.

So dont forget, you have won before after messing up. So if you mess up again, you can win again.