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How to deal with disordered eating without speaking to someone

As the title says, I have struggled with somewhat disordered eating for a few years now and I want tips for dealing with it without seeking professional help.

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I’m sick of this cycle but I don’t want to get professional help so idk how to get out of it
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Original post by Anonymous
As the title says, I have struggled with somewhat disordered eating for a few years now and I want tips for dealing with it without seeking professional help.

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I’m sick of this cycle but I don’t want to get professional help so idk how to get out of it

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How old are you and who else knows about your disordered eating?
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Original post by 04MR17
Just to let you know, to prevent this content triggering anyone I've placed the sensitive parts in a spoiler. :smile:
How old are you and who else knows about your disordered eating?

I’m 20 (I know, far too old to still be doing this teenager ****) and no one knows. My family commented on my weight loss when I came back from uni but they don’t know I am deliberately losing weight and I’m home alone all day so only have to eat one meal a day
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Original post by Anonymous
I’m 20 (I know, far too old to still be doing this teenager ****) and no one knows. My family commented on my weight loss when I came back from uni but they don’t know I am deliberately losing weight and I’m home alone all day so only have to eat one meal a day

This isn't teenager ****, it's a condition, it can get better - and you are right to be asking for help.

Do you have friends at home or at uni you'd feel comfortable sharing this with?
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Original post by 04MR17
This isn't teenager ****, it's a condition, it can get better - and you are right to be asking for help.
Do you have friends at home or at uni you'd feel comfortable sharing this with?
I don’t have friends lol
Original post by Anonymous
I don’t have friends lol

And do you want to tell me a bit about why that might be?
Reply 6
Original post by 04MR17
And do you want to tell me a bit about why that might be?
I’m just not a very likeable person I guess. I’ve never had close friends. I’m quite quiet/introverted and people don’t warm to me easily.
I think Beat have some good resources online and I believe they also offer an online chat too :smile:
Reply 8
Any reason you don't want professional help?
Reply 9
Original post by black tea
Any reason you don't want professional help?
I don’t think it’s serious enough and I don’t want to embarrass myself. Also don’t want them to try and make me gain weight because I’m technically considered underweight
Original post by Anonymous #1
I don’t think it’s serious enough and I don’t want to embarrass myself. Also don’t want them to try and make me gain weight because I’m technically considered underweight
Why would you embarrass yourself?

You can't really recover from an eating disorder if you are going to keep holding on to wanting to be underweight.
Reply 11
Original post by black tea
Why would you embarrass yourself?
You can't really recover from an eating disorder if you are going to keep holding on to wanting to be underweight.
I don’t have an eating disorder as in the diagnosable mental disorder, I just struggle with disordered eating as in some of the behaviours but not to the point of it being a disorder. And I am technically underweight (bmi 17.6) but because of my build I don’t look it. My thighs still touch most of the way up and people would probably look at me and guess I’m about 8.5 stone.
You are probably not best placed to decide whether or not you have a diagnosable mental illness, to be fair... Regardless of formal diagnosis though, you clearly have a problem and unfortunately effectively dealing with that problem would involve having to accept gaining weight.

Good luck with things and I hope you find the help and support you need.
Reply 13
Original post by black tea
You are probably not best placed to decide whether or not you have a diagnosable mental illness, to be fair... Regardless of formal diagnosis though, you clearly have a problem and unfortunately effectively dealing with that problem would involve having to accept gaining weight.
Good luck with things and I hope you find the help and support you need.
I don’t want to wake up every morning in a disgusting fat body and even when I was maintaining a weight at the lower end of healthy, my body was disgusting. I have an unfortunate build which doctors wouldn’t take into account and it’s not worth a lifetime in a fat body I hate just to reach what a chart classes as healthy
Original post by Anonymous #1
I don’t want to wake up every morning in a disgusting fat body and even when I was maintaining a weight at the lower end of healthy, my body was disgusting. I have an unfortunate build which doctors wouldn’t take into account and it’s not worth a lifetime in a fat body I hate just to reach what a chart classes as healthy
considering you have previously posted about losing your period because of your weight, it doesn't sound like a case of "what a chart classes as healthy"...
Reply 15
Original post by black tea
considering you have previously posted about losing your period because of your weight, it doesn't sound like a case of "what a chart classes as healthy"...
I still have periods at the minute and I will take that as the stopping point if I lose my period again
Original post by Anonymous #1
I don’t think it’s serious enough and I don’t want to embarrass myself. Also don’t want them to try and make me gain weight because I’m technically considered underweight
As to your serious enough comment let me run a scenario by you…

If someone is struggling in water which is 6ft deep, and another is struggling to the same extent in 16ft deep water, they both still need the same help.
It is always better to go and get help when something is in earlier stages, you can learn how to prevent it from getting worse which is really important.

The not wanting to gain weight is part of the eating disorder, it will get easier but you have to reach out for that help first. People can support you through this.
As @CoolCavy mentioned, I would recommend that you seek advice from a specialist organisation such as Beat, their chat rooms may also be useful to you: Beat Chat Rooms (beateatingdisorders.org.uk)
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Original post by Autumn223
As to your serious enough comment let me run a scenario by you…
If someone is struggling in water which is 6ft deep, and another is struggling to the same extent in 16ft deep water, they both still need the same help.
It is always better to go and get help when something is in earlier stages, you can learn how to prevent it from getting worse which is really important.
The not wanting to gain weight is part of the eating disorder, it will get easier but you have to reach out for that help first. People can support you through this.
It won’t get worse, I’ve never got to a dangerously low weight and it usually goes in cycles
Original post by Anonymous #1
It won’t get worse, I’ve never got to a dangerously low weight and it usually goes in cycles


I know thats how you feel now, but its important to get that support, you have made the first step by reaching out here but I think its important to reach out to someone who can genuinely support you through this

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