Did I lead him on?

You let him 'play' with your tits 'a couple of times'. And you think you didn't lead him on? Lol.

After I got a job post-uni I became much closer with one of my guy friends (knew him for about 3-4yrs) for about a few months. We did a lot of coupley stuff and spoke on the phone a lot but never had sex, the furthest it ever got was he would play with my tits once or twice in bed. I never knew he really liked me though and got with another guy for one night. I told my friend we should stay as friends but he told me was properly into me. If he'd said something earlier we probably would've had a relationship but I decided to move on. He got really upset and one evening a few months later he bought me a box of chocolates + xmas card saying we should still be friends, told me he still liked me and somehow we ended up spending the night together at mine. I still didn't want a relationship though but he wasn't getting the message so for the next few months even though he wanted to hang out I didn't know what to do but basically ignore him. In the end I had to tell him that the night we hooked up I was just really upset about work and was hugely drunk and that he took too much notice of us holding hands, texting a lot etc that I mentioned at the beginning.

Ever since then he's bitched to our mutual friends about me, how much I led him on and how I didn't care about our friendship at all (which is not true). From what i've said, does this seem to be the case? I was honest with him that I didn't want a relationship but he never listened and never stopped bugging me. Thoughts?

Lol Wish more girls let me do that

Nah, why would anyone think that?

You slept with him and still feel the need to ask this question?

Nah. Might have seemed so for him but I don't think you did.

Because nothing says "I like you as a friend, no more, I never want anything sexual or romantic to happen between us ever" than a girl letting a guy fondle her breasts not once, not twice but thrice (third one's the key)

You let him 'play' with your tits 'a couple of times'. And you think you didn't lead him on? Lol.

I concur, once titty fondling comes into the picture that's game on in my book

wise up OP

I concur, once titty fondling comes into the picture that's game on in my book

wise up OP

I told him about a month afterwards that we were getting too close and should stay as friends. He just didn't listen. Ok i ****ed up over christmas and should never have done anything then but even after i told him he didn't get the message. I did like him, just not enough and think most of it was because i was living by myself in a new flat, in a job I didn't like with people I didn't get on with. I didn't want to hurt his feelings because he was a mate.

And then after it had all happened at xmas if he'd just given me some space instead of constantly bugging me about hanging out for about 6 months after christmas we could still be friends but he didn't and made things bigger than they were by telling all his mates.