Is attraction predetermined?

At the tender age of 21 I've come to the realisation that this may very well be the case.

I've had 4 "love interests", of which one wasn't official, but should definitely be counted.

I would say that, physically, 2 of the girls were very similar. I don't think I chose them on purpose, it was more a subconcious choice. The other 2 were physically similar too, but different the previous girls.

An interesting study carried out in Finland suggests that men are likely to marry a woman who reflects the image of their own mothers. But this "attraction" goes way deeper than just looks, see this here article...


http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/are-you-dating-your-mom



Thoughts?

I agree about certain types, like for instance I always go for dark curly hair. I think the wanting a partner just like your mum or dad things is BS though- have never bought it.

the desire for those resembling your parents is based on Freud's theories about childhood development and unresolved complexes etc, his theories are very controversial, but if there is any truth to it, it's more likely to be coincidence than an unconscious fixation - I mean, your partner and parent may be nice people, but that doesn't mean you are attracted to nice people because your parent is a nice person (cause and effect cannot be distinguished) sub in any feature, it still yields the same conclusions.....

There is genuinely nothing that all 3 of my major exes have in common (other than the fact that they are male and I enjoyed spending time with them.)

I therefore don't think I have a type.

There is genuinely nothing that all 3 of my major exes have in common (other than the fact that they are male and I enjoyed spending time with them.)

I therefore don't think I have a type.

Are you a man or woman?

In any case, the study suggests that women don't choose their partners the same ways as men.

That much is certain-it's definitely weird how they can address it like ticking boxes and a shopping list, I think that is (at least partly) a modern feminist Americanization though, which encompasses a sort of perfectionism and pathological hypergamy. Besides that observable difference I have no understanding of how women differ, in so many ways, in this regard. It seems inscrutable.

Are you a man or woman?

In any case, the study suggests that women don't choose their partners the same ways as men.

Woman

There was a theory regarding the reason men supposedly choose the women who seem 'easy to get' due to an underlying urge to breed and pass on genes, and that women choose men who appear to be a useful resource for survival and child rearing. It has also been suggested that a woman's hip to waist ratio indicates her to be a healthy partner.

These seem a bit reductionist and extreme to me, but there is something understandable about it.....

At the tender age of 21 I've come to the realisation that this may very well be the case.

I've had 4 "love interests", of which one wasn't official, but should definitely be counted.

I would say that, physically, 2 of the girls were very similar. I don't think I chose them on purpose, it was more a subconcious choice. The other 2 were physically similar too, but different the previous girls.

An interesting study carried out in Finland suggests that men are likely to marry a woman who reflects the image of their own mothers. But this "attraction" goes way deeper than just looks, see this here article...


http://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/are-you-dating-your-mom



Thoughts?

I heard about this idea a long time ago and I think it's bs, use your brain and come to your own conclusions.

How about use yours and come back with an argument?

Yep - pretty much sums it all up. And women are attracted to men like their dad - in general terms. Have a read of Women are from Venus and Men are from Mars