WTF is going on?

So I now have the closure I wanted; and if I honest, im not even bothered lol, which I think illustrates that I wasn't that into him! I thought I fancied him, but when I saw him this evening, I didn't even fancy him anymore - just wanted to get away from him.

I am glad you have your closure, time to throw away that book never mind just that chapter. Dating websites are crap. Had my share of stupid situations despite not even being signed up on there.

As you say, make something positive of it, you got rid of some of the cobwebs! But, please, don't let the actions of this male, which unfortunately are the majority, stop you from getting close to one of the minority. Hazelnuts.

This is why I tell girls from the start that I don't want a relationship. Most still think they can change my mind but at least I was honest with them.

I hate liars.

This sounds like one of my pof follies.

Met a girl, talked loads before meeting including about sex and she came out with all kinds of boasts about how she was a sexual expert blah blah.

Met her, bought her flowers, we had sex that very day, just casual sex. She wasnt very good.... but it wasnt really what I was interested in...just thought best to get it out the way so I can get to know her properly without thinking with my dick.

Then that very evening she asked me out... i thought "bit soon isnt it?" and 10 mins after i said yes, she took me to a random bar. There in the bar was her ex bf and his sister. Awkward. Sat at the table and shes there going on about her date with me, about her sleeping with me etc.

I walked out and saw her the next day where she was all over me, had sex, then she turned cold. Dumped her straight away and she went psycho.

Seriously, dump him now and move on

Read post #41 . . .Tried to finish with him last week Tuesday and Thursday, but on both occasions he played ignorant!

You do not need to have a mutual agreement for such a scumbag. Informing him will do.

I dont think you should let him and your bad experience put you off dating though...some of us are great

I thought women could go for ages without sex!?

I had the same problem with the ex, i kept going limp throughout intercourse which was embarresing and has never happened before! So i blame her haha!

Do you tend to go for the badboys?

And that specifically attracts you?

(Was going to anon, but sod it lol)

Right, going to try and keep this as short, brief and to the point as much as I can.

Met a guy online, we instantly hit it off. Chatted every single day, until we met. We had a amazing date, and then spent the night chatting and smooching. We continued texting thereafter, met again at the weekend. This time it didn't really seem like a date, felt more like we'd known each other ages and again we were lovey dovey, literally inseparable. I invited him round, we didn't have sex, but just chilled, watched tv and had lil smooches.

A few days thereafter he asked me to be his gf, to which I thought ''Wow that's quick'', but we literally got on so well and etc, I thought ''why not?''. The following evening we went out, had a lovely date night and etc, and were very lovey dovey when leaving. We have talked about sex a lot, and agreed to wait a while, however that went out the window! Ok the sex wasn't brilliant but I wasn't expecting it to be due to being new partner, and not having been sexually active for sometime and etc. However the following day things changed! I was suppose to be seeing him that night, he said he wasn't up to seeing me, but things just seemed 'odd'. I saw him the following day and things seemed alright; again lovey dovey during the day until we got back to his place where he instantly changed; was cold towards me hardly spoke and I felt incredibly unwanted. I therefore took myself off home to save embarrassment!

Ever since then he's hardly spoken to me the past 5 days, which as a result I am extremely confused; I have absolutely no idea what it is going on. I have asked twice what is going on and I get the same response - which doesn't say yes or no if we're still in a r'ship! I took things in my own hands this evening, and again I got the same response.

Thing is I fancy the pants off him, and although I have mentioned the whole thing to friends and my mum, everyone has said to get rid of him (which I tried), but im still left hanging! :/ One thing I do feel though is used and taken for a fool; because he knows full well that I purposely saved myself to have sex with someone in a relationship, and that im not into being used, which is exactly how it feels. Even that I mentioned to him, and again he gave me the same response!

So does anyone have any idea as to what is going on? Any advice would be much appreciated, seeing as im not getting answers for my own bf/ex bf (see I don't even know what he is)

Well . .well this evening I received a message from him, asking me to come round. I thought ''ah ha'' this is my opportunity to try and get some answers. I was in two minds whether to go but I want to put the whole thing to bed. I kid you not, I got there and during the hour+ I was round there, he hardly said a word to me. I tried my best to get a conversation going, but it was one word answers and few words to string a sentence. I couldn't take anymore of it so I just took myself off home, I didn't even bother saying bye!

I got home to find a message from him saying ''You didn't even say ''bye'' to which I replied back with ''Got the hint and jist you didn't want me there or was in the talking mood. Furthermore why did you invite me round?'', He said ''To see if there were any feelings'', and from what he was saying I think he was trying to say no there wasn't. I said I tried to finish the whole thing on Thursday, he said I didn't and then replied back with if he'd known, he wouldn't have invited me round. He said ''It's done now'', and I responded with ''Im really confused lol'', and his response was ''Byebye'' and mine was ''Ta ta''.

So I now have the closure I wanted; and if I honest, im not even bothered lol, which I think illustrates that I wasn't that into him! I thought I fancied him, but when I saw him this evening, I didn't even fancy him anymore - just wanted to get away from him.

I've not been sexually active for 5 years (through choice; I've had offers for casual sex but said no to everyone as not into that), so yea the sex drive was raging as it was and then to top it off im on some medication which increases the sex drive even more! lol But now I've had 'something', it's not too bad, but still not really ''satisfied'' lol.

I try not to go for the bad boys, but when I meet someone, and I get to know a bit more about them, they always open up to me and have a background which is the complete opposite to me; police records, done drugs, unable to hold down a job and etc . So it's why im not at all bothered about this **** because that's what he's like.

Hello

Right, so i read this and some of your replies to what other people had said, and i must say the whole thing is really confusing!! Its left me slightly bewildered.

Anyway, initially when i read what had happened, i definitely did not think it sounded like he was just after sex.

You said about the sex not being brilliant. Are you sure that he is not just really embarrassed and thinks he gave a poor performance? Sometimes when ive humiliated myself in general life i try and avoid any sort of contact with the situation. Maybe he was just embarrassed about himself?

The second part i highlighted when you saw him again and he acted 'cold'. I think if he was just after sex then he wouldnt have been so cold towards you would he? It really sounds to me like hes embarrassed about something, but by being lovey dovey towards you in the day i think he likes you, but is probably just confused. Also, if he was lovey towards you in the day and then cold when it came to there being any possibility of sex, then he clearly didnt want sex so he must have liked you enough to meet you in the first place?

I think you just somehow need to reassure him that he has nothing to worry about. And then leave the ball in his court.

Good luck

please tell me what the medication is?

and im the same with the bad boys- seem nice at first then find out theyre criminals haha

sorry i failed to read this bit.

He sounds just like this guy i know. Constantly messing me around, then not being clear on texts. ergh!!

just forget him. what a douch. he seems really sadistic, enjoying playing with your feelings.

Sociopath is the word, they use people to get what they want, very good at pretending to be nice, and once they have it they are cold.

I dont think him stressing you using a condom is a bad sign, the pill doesnt protect against STD's and isnt 100% protection against babies either. He actually did you a favor, because if you hadnt used a condom you might have an std now. Probably worth getting tested anyway especially if his "balls hurt".

And, you dont need tons of practice to be good at sex, if your into someone it just works. What did he expect, you to be like a pornstar?

****ing idiot.