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is having friends and joining social clubs a sign of weakness

is the "look at me , I don't need anyone and am happy alone" thing just a fake image people put out to show that they are not needy

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Reply 1

Autistic Merit

I would disagree with the question in your title. I don't think having friends is necessarily a sign of weakness. We are social creatures after all.

Reply 2

455409

Not if you're in your twenties.

Reply 3

Truflais

Original post by james1211

Not if you're in your twenties.

Or maybe it is, and that's why they don't join them!

No OP I don't think it is.

Reply 4

democracyforum

So when you hit 20, cut off contact with everyone and just concentrate on your career ?

Reply 5

Катя

Original post by democracyforum

So when you hit 20, cut off contact with everyone and just concentrate on your career ?

Sounds like a recipe for misery.

Reply 6

democracyforum

Original post by Катя

Sounds like a recipe for misery.

Isn't it needy to need people and relationships though ?

I have this great fear of coming across as needy and needing people to satisfy my emotional needs.
That can only come from within can't it ?

So may as well just cut off contact with everyone and not get close to anyone.

Reply 7

Olie

Though, one thing I've always wondered... Why don't people in their 20s join social groups?

:tongue:

Reply 8

+ polarity -

Original post by democracyforum

So may as well just cut off contact with everyone and not get close to anyone.

This is me. I can tell you, it's not that much fun. I feel very empty.

Reply 9

MichaelYEAH

Jesus, people on here are so depressive..

Reply 10

futuredoctorVSB

No of course not! There are different definitions of social strength and weakness. I could take two people, one the social person with lots of friends, and the other a complete lone wolf, and I could very easily say that they are both strong. What makes a person weak, is how they deal with their own social standing. Clingy people, that rely overly on their friends are weak, and a lone wolf that get depressed and indecisive, can be weak too. There is a much deeper issue that deals with a person's strength. Having friends and being social vs not doing so, is not something that can outright determine a person's strength, although they may influence it.

Also, quick point. You are making the assumption that having friends and being social = neediness on other people. That is simply not true.

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Reply 11

Viva Emptiness

Original post by + polarity -

This is me. I can tell you, it's not that much fun. I feel very empty.

Let me fill you up bbz.

Wait. Wat.

Reply 12

democracyforum

Original post by + polarity -

This is me. I can tell you, it's not that much fun. I feel very empty.

Why ?

you feel inferior ? superior ? judged ? insecure about looks, job, money ? or you have social nervousness ? afraid of coming across as a clingy nuisance ?

or you want to come across as a cool, loner ? afraid to show interest in people ?

explain why.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 13

The Socktor

Our ability to work together is precisely why we're the most powerful species.

Solitude is bad for your mental health - hence why solitary confinement is regarded as a form of torture.

Reply 14

InnerTemple

Original post by democracyforum

Isn't it needy to need people and relationships though ?

Certainly not. Why would you think that?

Reply 15

+ polarity -

Original post by The Socktor

Our ability to work together is precisely why we're the most powerful species.

Solitude is bad for your mental health - hence why solitary confinement is regarded as a form of torture.

My dad said the same thing. I think you're right.

Reply 16

honeywhite

Original post by democracyforum

is the "look at me , I don't need anyone and am happy alone" thing just a fake image people put out to show that they are not needy

Are you high? Your 20's is when you get invites to gentlemen's clubs (the Oxford and Cambridge, the Reform, the Travellers') and you make your friends there and break into society! You can't make your debut at the age of 30... you have to do it while you're at uni or a short time after.

Reply 17

Northern Downpour

Personally, I think the most rewarding things in life are good relationships with people and making other people happy. So I'd completely disagree.

Community, love, acceptance of other people are things that really make life worth living imo. Why live without it?

Reply 18

chantheman

Humans naturally need companionship, otherwise they'd go insane, such as people who've been cast away or have been in solitary confinement, friends are needed tbh

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