So I'm 24, just starting my 3rd year of my PhD, and want to go into academia. Yet, compared to my colleagues and current peers I don't feel like I'm any more of an adult, and actually feel like a child. Those around me are either in committees relationships, bought their own house or are even married.
Whilst I don't think these things should be a factor of being more adult, do they really? And if not, what point do you feel like an adult?
It depends on how you define being an adult. Even though those with children or in relationships still act "childish". You can also define adult as being someone who is ambitious and on track with their career ambitions, such as yourself!
It never happens, at some point you will realise you are old.
When you talk to people and say "back in my day".
Nothing makes me feel more adult than being out of breath, and on the verge of collapsing after climbing a floor of stairs lol.
I didn't feel like an adult until I passed my driving test at 22 years of age. I was doing all the other things adults were doing - I'd done my A Levels, I was working, paying my mum keep, buying my own clothes and personal belongings, clubbing, drinking, shagging, and all that, but I still didn't feel totally independent and like an adult until I truly was independent after getting my licence, I guess.
If by adult you mean feeling old, giving my nephew things from when I was growing up and watching him try to figure out how to use them never fails in achieving that goal.
I live with my partner who I've been with for five years and engaged to for two, I have a good job which holds a lot of responsibility, I have a car and pay all my bills, I've had to make some really grown up decisions, I've been abroad and on long road trips, I / we manage to keep our cat alive and happy... yet I still don't feel like an adult. Infact, in some ways, my personality is quite childlike - I love LEGO, robots, dinosaurs, animated films, etc. I think, if you can do all the things that you need to, to live a successful adult life, then it doesn't matter if you feel like a grown up or not. It probably helps not to, for your sanity! Who wants to live a life where the things that excite you the most are putting on a wash or emptying the dishwasher? Just be you.
when you feel like telling off kids for being too noisy
I've been living on my own for ten years, have tons of experience in a bunch of things, and I feel like an independent vaguely responsible person, but I don't think I'll ever feel like an "adult". Looks boring tbh
For me it was when I stopped indulging in my emotions. I've learned to shut down my emotions so much so that I now wish I could cry. By doing this, I've realised just how weak emotions make people so everyone's become my *****. As a result I'm Game of Thronesing it through life and I'm always on the winning team. This definitely makes me feel like an adult because I finally have a huge amount of control over people and situations. That's something I never had before.