How long do I wait?

I’m not too sure why but my boyfriend hasn’t been online in a while and I don’t know what to do.

We’re in a long distance relationship, and until now he’s made the effort to talk to me as much as possible. He’s away at the minute and has kinda unreliable internet access, so it could be as simple as that, but he’s been away since the start of the month and so far has never been more than a day without speaking to me. It’s been four or five days now.

His dad was taken into hospital just under a week ago, but last time I spoke to him, he said he [his dad] was due home in an hour. I haven’t heard from him [boyfriend] since then so I’m quite worried.

The other thing is that last time he was away for a day, he cheated on me, so with such a long gap this time I’m a little nervous about him doing something, even though I do trust him and don’t think he’d make that mistake again.

I have no way of reaching him and I don’t know what to do. I’m really stressing, not knowing if he’s okay, or what’s happening, or when he’ll be back. How long do I wait for him? I’m scared he might not come back at all. Probably just my insecurity there but I’m not very patient

girl it sounds as if he has cut you off, but why didn’t you leave him as soon as he cheated on you???
if he’s gone so long without speaking or updating you, there clearly is a major issue

I’m trying to give him the benefit of the doubt as I know he’s very stressed and supposed to be on holiday, but I am pretty worried that he won’t come back. I don’t understand why though, he’s never hinted at being unhappy and told me last time we spoke how much he loves me etc.
Idk why I didn’t leave him when he cheated. I guess sometimes I’m too forgiving. I wasn’t particularly annoyed at him (kinda hurt though…) so I decided to just stay with him.
Thank you

bestie you have to stand up for yourself, he clearly isn’t caring about your emotions! Focus on your self!

In his defence, his dad is very ill right now and I don’t think I’d be talking much either in his position… that said, I’d still check up on him.

It just kinda hurts cause I’m going through a lot as well, and I was hoping he’d be able to provide some comfort, but I feel very alone. I don’t want to leave him but I’m running out of patience

I'm so sorry you're feeling that way and going through things but it'll be alright. From the sounds of it he's cutting you off or ghosting you. He might come back when he feels like he needs something from you again but he's taking advantage of the situation. You'll find better, trust me. Cut him off and move on okay? You deserve so much more, and things will get better.

I'd be worried if it went that long without a single message or update. You're gonna be okay and you're taking his defence.

The fact he cheated on you is a red flag, he could be doing the same thing now

I’m kinda glad it’s not just me tbh, I thought I might be too clingy… the amount of stress he’s put me through, I have started to feel like I want to end things, but I’ll feel so guilty if he comes back and I’ve moved on. I’m also pretty scared of leaving him and being alone - I don’t like being single!