first impressions don't always show the truth of a person

i learned that people can smile, be friendly, make a good impression, and have a sense of humour, yet still not be your friend

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Aufbau

I don't understand. Are you asking if everyone that has good manners or are polite, is your friend? The answer is clearly 'no'.

To consider someone a friend, we need a mutual connection, our personal constitutions or values need to align and furthermore we both would choose to spend time together repeatedly.

If someone smiles at me, I smile back - We are still strangers,
If someone holds the door, I'll say thank you. - We are still strangers.
If someone makes small talk, I'll have a chat - we are still strangers.
If someone tells a funny joke, I have the same humour and laugh - Thanks, but we are still strangers.
If someone buys me a coffee when we are in the cafeteria together, very nice of them, - we are probably still strangers, maybe acquaintances, but not friends.
Gifts, small talk, being polite does not acquit friendship.

Friends repeatedly choose each other.

(edited 10 months ago)

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