Inheritance

When I was 14 my mom died and it was an unexpected death . Her cash legacy was split between me, my sisters and her boyfriend . My dad and mom split up way before that but my dad some how got a share of the money .
I got 10k and it was stated in the documents. But I got to see that till this day . I am 18 and my dad is making threats saying he will kick me out of the house so now I am concerned, where did the money that was suppose to be for me go ?
I will like all of that back before I move out .
Is this possible ?
Till this day he hasn’t mentioned the money to me and I know he has no intention in giving it to me .

If your parents weren't divorced then your Dad would get a share.

Who was the Executor of the will? They should know where the money is - contact Citizens Advice

'Mom'.

We must assume you are living in the US then.

If your parents weren't divorced then your Dad would get a share.

Who was the Executor of the will? They should know where the money is - contact Citizens Advice

Then stop using daft Americanisms like 'Mom'.

Then stop using daft Americanisms like 'Mom'.

I am afraid I have form in this type of case, and I feel for you very deeply.

My parents were quite wealthy thanks to my mum investing wisely. My mum, who was in poor health, was always showing me where she kept some folders in the house. She said that one day I would come into quite a bit of money but I would be careful with it.

Then a few years later she died. My dad met someone three months later and married her. At the solicitor’s meetings I and my brother were invited but the solicitors did not bring the money up. I just assumed I would not get this until my father died.

Then ( I won’t go into the reasons why) my father and I fell out and we didn’t speak for years ( let’s say he had been treating me badly). As a single mum I carried on struggling for years, until out of the blue I got a phone call from my dad. I put the phone down but my peacemaker son phoned him back. He wanted to give me the share of the money my mum left me and that I was due for since 2006. You see, when money is left, the solicitors trust the parent ( in this case) to do the right thing and distribute the money as per the deceased parent’s wishes ( of course my brother got his money in 2006 and tried to guilt me out of accepting my share). My father has carried on with this taking control of the wills tactic with my aunt’s will ( she told my son she had seen a solicitor before she had died and had left him some money yet he and several grandchildren she was enormously fond of) got nothing. Solicitors should stop assuming the senior family member is honest and keep those in receipt of inheritance up to date ( if underage at the time, at least inform them when of age and ring fence the money so that the father cannot use it).

Now that your father is threatening you with eviction the situation has become urgent and you will need to do some homework. I wonder if there are any documents in the house that may indicate which solicitors he uses. If not, do what muttley says and go to the citizen’s advice bureau. I am willing to bet that this would have been drawn up by a solicitors in your local town.

Also the citizens advice bureau can help you with his threats to throw you out - your rights, where to go from here.

I hope you can find your independence without this awful father ( as I have done). Years later my father (86 today) is still up to his own tricks, snubbing me from family events and laughing about it , and making my equally obnoxious brother sole executor of his will ( which I am pretty sure will cut me out)

All the best to you and please know that however dark your life may seem right now, there will someday be life at the end of the tunnel.

My father is also an absolutely useless parent too, for many reasons. In certain ways, I think that I have experienced something slightly similar. My grandparents always said that we could have a share of the inheritance when they died. They left it to their two sons who didn't share a thing. There was nothing in the will to say otherwise, though, so c'est la vie in my case and par for the course (sister was angry). Then my father initially split his money three ways between his current partner and my sister and me, but changed it to all go to his partner. One way of looking at it is that, if he dies before her, then she dies without spending it, my grandparents' money effectively goes to her kids. His money, his choice, and you can't choose your family. His partner probably won't even tell me if he dies. It does show how priorities change when one person in a relationship dies or a couple separate.
I have been thinking recently about this in relation to how to protect my daughter financially if I should die (not that I am planning on it for some time), bearing in mind that a person's priorities may change after a partner dies, whatever may be said whilst one is alive. I am afraid that verbal assurances mean nothing as far as I am concerned.

OP, I would get advice on where you stand from Citizens Advice. Shelter can give advice on housing options.

Yes my father has said that if he dies first, the bulk of his money goes to my step mother. However it is of no use to her at all, as she has dementia so is not aware of anything at all.

For years he has bragged about his money and spending it like water but now because of the dementia he is grounded.

Tbh I have made my own happy life and have happy successful children so the money is neither here nor there to me neither

I am afraid I have form in this type of case, and I feel for you very deeply.

My parents were quite wealthy thanks to my mum investing wisely. My mum, who was in poor health, was always showing me where she kept some folders in the house. She said that one day I would come into quite a bit of money but I would be careful with it.

Then a few years later she died. My dad met someone three months later and married her. At the solicitor’s meetings I and my brother were invited but the solicitors did not bring the money up. I just assumed I would not get this until my father died.

Then ( I won’t go into the reasons why) my father and I fell out and we didn’t speak for years ( let’s say he had been treating me badly). As a single mum I carried on struggling for years, until out of the blue I got a phone call from my dad. I put the phone down but my peacemaker son phoned him back. He wanted to give me the share of the money my mum left me and that I was due for since 2006. You see, when money is left, the solicitors trust the parent ( in this case) to do the right thing and distribute the money as per the deceased parent’s wishes ( of course my brother got his money in 2006 and tried to guilt me out of accepting my share). My father has carried on with this taking control of the wills tactic with my aunt’s will ( she told my son she had seen a solicitor before she had died and had left him some money yet he and several grandchildren she was enormously fond of) got nothing. Solicitors should stop assuming the senior family member is honest and keep those in receipt of inheritance up to date ( if underage at the time, at least inform them when of age and ring fence the money so that the father cannot use it).

Now that your father is threatening you with eviction the situation has become urgent and you will need to do some homework. I wonder if there are any documents in the house that may indicate which solicitors he uses. If not, do what muttley says and go to the citizen’s advice bureau. I am willing to bet that this would have been drawn up by a solicitors in your local town.

Also the citizens advice bureau can help you with his threats to throw you out - your rights, where to go from here.

I hope you can find your independence without this awful father ( as I have done). Years later my father (86 today) is still up to his own tricks, snubbing me from family events and laughing about it , and making my equally obnoxious brother sole executor of his will ( which I am pretty sure will cut me out)

All the best to you and please know that however dark your life may seem right now, there will someday be life at the end of the tunnel.

If the Solicitors were the Executors and have not complied with the will [you can get a copy] then they have broken the law. They can't pass on the responsibility as you describe ...

In most of these cases there was probably sadly only a verbal agreement and trust that the surviving parent/offspring would distribute the money to the grandchildren or whomever. Otherwise I don't understand how somebody could break the law without a penalty.

Btw, it's possible that @McGinger was only pointing out the possibility that the OP might specialist advice based on the American legal system in which case British law would be pointless.