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    Salaam everyone!! :hello:
    Long time since I last visited here!
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    Assalamun Aleykum sisters and brothers.

    How was you're day

    There's this question thats been bugging me for a long time. Every sunday's i go to this islamic meeting to learn about islam (how to read the quran, the prophets life, important dua's and certain topics)

    Last week we were discussing marriage and the teacher said that men in islam were allowed to marry 4 wives. Now this really shocked me because the teacher continued saying that he could marry more than one woman even if his first way is against the whole idea. Shouldn't a marriage be based on trust and making decisions together AND equality.

    I'm really confused about this. Can anyone explain why this is so. Much appreciated. Thanks

    Salams

    Milli
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    4:3 But if ye fear that ye cannot do justice between orphans, then marry what seems good to you of women, by twos, or threes, or fours; and if ye fear that ye cannot be equitable, then only one, or what your right hands possess. That keeps you nearer to not being partial.
    Before we can comment on this verse, we need to understand when and why it was revealed. According to my knowledge, this Surah was revealed after the Battle of Uhud, where quite a few muslim men where killed, leaving widowed women with children to fed for themselves. Back then, it was difficult for the women to support their families, and still is in many countries. So this surah was revealed encouraging men who were financially and physically capable of supporting widowed mothers to help them nurture their children.

    The last part of the verse 'That keeps you nearer to not being partial.' indicates that it is discouraged because most men will not be completely impartial. This is further mentioned in verse 4:129. But if they believe they can, then it is only encouraged when it's for humanitarian incentive, such as assisting to support widowed women with children or elderly women who can't support themselves.

    Assalaamu Alaikum everyone!
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    Oh oh oh, mashallah, we have a female exegete in the house!
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    Wa Alaikum Salaam.

    The idea of 4 wives came about, as Mizfissy sadi, through the idea of war. If a comrades was killed then his companion could take his widowed wife as his own and provide for her ie give her shelter, food and basically a home.

    Of course there are conditions for this. He must treat them both equally and cannot marry just for lust. He must also be able to provide for both his wives...
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    Is it sinful upon me if I marry two females, who happen to be blood-related (sisters for example)?
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    Is it sinful upon me if I marry two females, who happen to be blood-related (sisters for example)?
    Assalaamu Alaikum guys!
    Yes it is...at the same time anyway.
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    (Original post by rashid1988)
    Wa Alaikum Salaam.

    The idea of 4 wives came about, as Mizfissy sadi, through the idea of war. If a comrades was killed then his companion could take his widowed wife as his own and provide for her ie give her shelter, food and basically a home.

    Of course there are conditions for this. He must treat them both equally and cannot marry just for lust. He must also be able to provide for both his wives...
    so can a man marry more than one wife at this time our life.
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    The majority of the u'lema agree on that it does...although there are conditions and restrictions.
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    Oh oh oh, mashallah, we have a female exegete in the house!
    :p:
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    hey salaam, is any1 here goin to warwick uni nxt yr?
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    salams everyone

    hope you are all ok

    im so busy doing my art courswoerk
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    (Original post by rukayah)
    hey salaam, is any1 here goin to warwick uni nxt yr?

    walaykum salam

    not sue if anyones going. ill be in a2 next year.
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    (Original post by Milli)
    so can a man marry more than one wife at this time our life.
    Yes, i actually know a Mufti with two wives. Or i dont know him personally but i went for his talk and things... He's very much respected and a high authority of Islamic knowledge in SA.

    Asslamu Alaikum Mizfissy and Dimez! How are you?
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    salam brother reashid

    how you doing?
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    (Original post by rahmara)
    salam brother reashid

    how you doing?
    W/Salaams im good Alhamdulillah and u?
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    doh.. i might b goin ther nxt yr n i rly wnt to make some gd muslim friends.. where do u live?
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    (Original post by rashid1988)
    W/Salaams im good Alhamdulillah and u?
    alhamdulilah im ok. doing art couresowrk
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    (Original post by rukayah)
    doh.. i might b goin ther nxt yr n i rly wnt to make some gd muslim friends.. where do u live?
    london sis

    how about you?
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    i live near bham, what r u studyin? do u know which unis u wna go to yet?
 
 
 
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