Hi all.
Could really use some advice. Basically, been with my boyfriend since I started Uni. He was in second year and everything was perfect. I'm now in third year, but I'm on placement 2 hours away. He's in final year and our relationship has just completely broken down. The past three months have been awful, we've been arguing about the same thing - not being able to plan time together. He has an awful lot of work and just can't afford to take weekends out.
Now, things got quite bad in December, and he was considering ending it, but after careful thought and consideration he decided to give things another go as although it was tough, it was worth it. January came, and so did more arguments, same things again, about us not having time to spend a weekend together. He finally said he'd had enough, accused me of ruining his exams and making everything awful.
He came to see me for a day to break up with me, was super emotional and now he just wont give me another chance. He says I've ruined things, I've had enough chances and he doesn't think he could love me in the same way again. I can't deal with this, we're perfect for each other and we both admitted that it's just the distance and lack of time together that's ultimately ruined things. He's too good to give up on, and of course I'm feeling the usual "I can't imagine being with anyone else, ever" thoughts, but I just know that I'm going to regret these past 3/4 months for a very long time if this is really it.
To make things worse, one of his good friends from home is getting involved. Initially I think he was asking her for her advice, but now she's telling him to ignore me/delete me from fb/etc. I don't want him to do this and forget about me because I know I can mend things, so it seems like such a waste.
I can hold on until June, because I know I'll move back to the same place and we'll have time to be together. But he's just so unwilling to even take things slowly and try again. How can I get him to give me another chance? Is it even possible? I know we both need space for a while but I'm finding it tough - it makes me so so so sad to think I'll never see/talk/be with him again, and I don't know what to do. Turned into a bit of a wreck lately, and I can't stand feeling so sad all the time. I reaaally don't want to turn into a mental girl who is obsessed with calling/stalking her ex, but I'm finding it hard to not click on that profile page/text etc... I know he needs space, but I'm scared that if I give him space he'll move on
Any advice would be much appreciated...