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Anyone know the best and most cost effective way of travelling from London to Edinburgh? I'm not in the UK at the moment, but it would be a good to note for when I do return. Looks like my options are either train, coach or plane. We don't have anything arranged yet but I'd ideally like for us to try and visit each other every weekend of we can. I'm kinda itching to take a break from my travelling abroad partly so I can see him again, especially as we'd been together in Australia for only two months before he went back home to Edinburgh. I feel like that's maybe too early for a new relationship to turn so long distant. We'll see what happens anyway.

Train will take you about five hours each way but can be pretty cheap if you book in advance, and it's East Coast so you can collect reward points to get free tickets. Flying might be quicker (factor in time to get to/from each airport as well as the ticket cost) and Easyjet fly there from Stansted and Luton so should be cheap if you book in advance. I wouldn't get a coach just for a weekend visit, takes too long and I don't think it's worth the cost saving for that.

Whichever way you pick, going every weekend is going to cost you loads. Do you have something keeping you in the south when you return to the UK? It'd almost be worth moving to Edinburgh if you want to see him that often...


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Hmmm, come to think of it, I don't really have much to stay in the south for tbh. I have always considered that if we work out longer term, I would happily move up to Edinburgh to be with him. I dunno if it'd be a bit soon to do it after only after being together a couple of months though. Then again, we've sort of already lived together after living in the same hostel in Melbourne for nearly a couple of months, so maybe it wouldn't be that different? I'll see how things go when I return to the UK and have my first visit to him in Edinburgh

You wouldn't necessarily have to move in with him in Edinburgh, but if you have no reason to stay in London then you might as well live/work in Edin where you can try to have a normal relationship and see how things go.

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After hearing my friend go on and on and on about her long distance relationship with her boyfriend in Australia for 4 years, me and her boyfriend decided to make her wish of seeing him come true! I had been to Australia 5 times as my family live there and her family couldn't afford it for her to fly out, I wish I could have payed.. if I had a spare £1000, that's what I would have spent it on. It was her 18th birthday the other day and I had came back from Australia 1 month early to spend her 18th with her, and there was a box in the middle of the venue (big enough for a car, thank you to her parents for sorting that big of a box out.. you're genius'!) and I was stood under it with a smaller box. She opened the box and freaked out when she saw me, we hadn't seen eachother in 3 months. She then asked what the smaller present was, I said it was a gift from Australia and it most certainly was.. her boyfriend was under it. Seeing them happy was the best feeling in the world. He's been saving up for 3 years to be able to fly over and see her, he can now afford 5 return trips, he just wanted the first to be on a special occasion. Love can conquer all

does anybody else sometimes feel like they wish they had never bothered with the relationship?

Hello guys.. I just wanted to pour my heart out to all of you possibly going through the same thing.
My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and a half in a long distance relationship. It's funny because our relationship initially started as a long distance one and there was no normal phase for us. With time and lots of airplane tickets, talking to him on skype and not being able to see him for more than two months started taking the best of me.
If I meet the conditions of my offer I am going to KCL in September and I am pretty sure I will do. Boyfriend is now living in Birmingham and searching for a new job in London. I am praying that he gets it so this whole long distance crap can be over. I am afraid to tell him how badly I want him to get a job there. I am not a needy girl but being in a new county, living just a few underground stops away from my partner will make a big difference. We have a 7 year gap and although I am pretty grownup for a 19 year old, I do feel that I am younger than him sometimes. Also, I want to add the fact that his family is Indian (even his mum and dad were born and raised in Britain but still) and it will be very interesting when we meet.
I love him to pieces but there are days when I just wish things were easier for us. I am grateful we found each other because I don't doubt that he is the one. Some days are horrible, other are better but overall it's just hard. The moments when we are together go away in a blink of an eye.


Sorry for the long post! I didn't realize that I've written a book.

When you and your partner are apart, what's the longest you can go without messaging each other (email, texting, Facebook, etc) and what's the longest you can go without speaking (phone, Skype, etc)?

I'm just curious as to what is generally considered normal.

When you and your partner are apart, what's the longest you can go without messaging each other (email, texting, Facebook, etc) and what's the longest you can go without speaking (phone, Skype, etc)?

I'm just curious as to what is generally considered normal.

We text through the day, so a maximum of a few hours when we're busy. And tend to Skype once a day, again if we're busy there's occasionally a gap of a like 2 days. But I don't think we're normal - I'd be curious to hear more responses!

We go a few days up to a week without speaking on the phone/skype. Usually only 1 of those a week.
He works 10-6 in the week, so we can't really text during the day. We will send the occasional random text, but never have full conversations during the day - some replies take a few hours because of him working xD But yeah, we'll probably send at least one text a day. Sometimes leave random comments on facebook/twitter.
I'm not sure we're normal either though. Some people seem to text a lot throughout the day! We just never have done.

Edit: I've finished Uni for the summer now, so we're not long distance any more, but he's off in Malaysia for 3 weeks so currently we can only email. We've been emailing every day or every other day this week. Just random updates of what we're doing!

Ah ok. Good to know that other people go a few days without contact, so it's not just me and my bf. Do you not miss him much during that time, or you cope with it fine because of your busy lives and the fact that you've gotten used to the distance now?

My relationship only turned long distance just under two weeks ago now, whereas before we saw each other nearly everyday and were even living in the same backpackers hostel for a while, so I'm still trying to adjust to everything suddenly changing. Plus, I've been having a bit of a rubbish time in Australia lately which probably makes the separation feel that much worse, that I'm out here but it doesn't feel like I've any longer got a good reason to be so far from him.

When you and your partner are apart, what's the longest you can go without messaging each other (email, texting, Facebook, etc) and what's the longest you can go without speaking (phone, Skype, etc)?

I'm just curious as to what is generally considered normal.