should I take the hint?

The guy I like and I have this running joke where we say our next date will be in the next couple of months. For example I said '' I'll see you in August when it's warmer when I last saw him. I started it off, but I joke around and ask if it's his way of saying he doesn't want to see me again when he says it.

So I call him the other day and casually ask where we are going next and his response is 'ooohh.. I don't know I haven't really thought about it. Remember it won't be until August '. There was something about the way he responded so I joked and said ' it kinda sounded like ooh there's going be a next time, like it's a bad thing' because it definitely sounded like it. He just played it off. Up until then the conversation was fine but he's limited the amount of contact he makes. We did touch on the subject of times we've made excuses to avoid someone and he's not avoided any of my messages or anything. Just seems a little distant.

Am I right to think he's a little off with me? Or might not want to see me again?

If he stopped talking to u as much, after u said to meet up.. Means he thought it was a joke and now he thinks your being serious, he's finding you weird, and isn't feeling it.

- Don't let a man determine your value girl.


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He's not into you.

Next time stop playing games and be more direct.

If someone likes you, they would make an effort to always see you/ contact you. Fullstop. Especially in this day and age where its so easy to keep in contact with someone. Either he assumed you were being serious & masquerading it as a joke or he's just not that into you. Seeing as you've brought up a question to him about another date, I would say the latter (because of his reaction). I personally would have taken the hint at the beginning of paragraph 2.

This is all guesswork though, no one really knows what someone else is thinking. For all we know he could have bought you a wedding dress & is about to ambush you at your workplace tomorrow, sobbing with a ring.

Well done then, u pulled I suppose? lOl


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What's happened to real attraction these days. Where is this whole let's be friends, then one likes the other and complains to forums and friends about it, coming from?

Real attraction is still out there.... Where in my post did I mention a 'let's be friends' situation? :s

"The guy I like..." Sounded like it was a friendship and now you've grown feelings otherwise I felt you should have written "The guy i'm dating/seeing"

You're being very open with the "some people are worth it" flirty type. How old are you both? .. If u want it for long term then be more secluded and covered up so he feels for more.


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How long u been chatting to the guy for? Before dating him


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Thanks. Up until a week ago I wasn't questioning if he was interested because we spoke quite regularly. Then he said he wanted to surprise me on Sunday which he did and we had a blast. He texted me good night, then on Tuesday we spoke on the phone and the convo above happened.

I started this joke on our first date and from then he didn't take it literally. The next day he threw the joke back at me then proceeded to talk about our next date. On Sunday I said people struggle to get me out my house and he said he didn't find it hard, I said some people are worth the effort ( he knew I was talking about him).

I'm doing guesswork myself. Before I didn't feel any way about initiating conversations with him, now I kinda feel a certain way about it. I just don't wanna make the mistake of misreading and taking a step back when I could be on the wrong page completely.

Hmmm, so it definitely wasn't the joke then. Are you always initiating the conversation now? Or making more effort to talk to him in comparison? It seems like he's just not into it any more, some people do that randomly. Why? Who knows, sometimes there's just no reason. Everything is going fine and then they turn cold all of a second and start distancing themselves slowly. So I would say he's just not that into you. If I were you I would act normal and wait for him to initiate a next date/convo from now on. See how it plays out, because you never know so don't jump the gun.