Hi,
I know this is an awfully long one but Is appreciate anyone who took the time to read it and answer
So a couple of days ago I finally asked out this guy I've had a crush on for a month. He said yes and because he was on a shift at the pub we didn't really have time to discuss where/when so we agreed to fb later..
A day later I asked him what days he was free and then he said He was was sorry but he was kind of speaking to this girl he knew from college and he had nothing against going on a date with me but he would feel kinda bad on this girl...I replied with its OK obviously it's up to you if you wanna come but I don't want to make you do anything that might make you feel bad.
I suggested he tell her first to see how she'd feel about it, he replied that he wouldn't knew what to say to her and then that he thought me and him were completely different people and that he wasn't sure if we'd get on. Which confuses me as he said he had nothing against going out with me?
I feel like he's using this other girl as an excuse to just say he's not interested but I just wish he could've been honest and maybe have told me no straight away when I asked him
bc when he said yes it got my hopes up and I was buzzing the entire day after and then when he messages me to say he's not interested he can't even tell me directly.
I'm feeling pretty bad rn which is natural I know, but I have quite low self esteem as it is and since I'm quite shy I felt quite proud of myself to have asked him out in person (even tho ai was a bit drunk) rather than message him on Facebook. I just feel taken aback that he didn't have the guts to tell me to my face he didn't like me he had to do it over a message :/
Do you guys think I'm overreacting? Or was he in the wrong in the way he approached turning me down? And what are the best ways to handle rejection? :'D
Thanks