Am I being too harsh?

You definitely shouldn't judge someone for not going to uni, maybe she has some financial or emotional problems, or she decided that she wants to live a life in a way different than yours. That shouldn't ever be the reason to decide not to meet someone better.
On the other hand, if you think she isn't intelligent enough, that could be a valid reason to skip a date with someone. However, you shouldn't mix intelligence and education, those two are different things.

What I love is how TSR is absolute unreality. It's like a wormhole into a parallel universe.

TSR:
-Wants to meet someone smart and engaging
-Goes on Tinder - a dating app optimised for physical appearance
-Complains that she might not be smart or engaging enough


Reality:
-Match with someone attractive on Tinder - but she's just a waitress.
-Doesn't matter. It's a done deal.
-Occupation and level of intellectual sophistication do not even make the list of criteria

What do you mean when you say it's a done deal?

Irl, if a normal man goes on Tinder and gets matched with someone, it's a done deal in the sense that they usually happily go on a date with said person. They've already been pre-screened in the sense that you right-swiped them already.

There's no concept of "She's too dumb to go on a date with me." It's Tinder. That's not what it's for.

yes u are being too harsh ! so what if she didn't go to university and just has a normal job it doesn't mean that shes stupid!! and if ur just planning on having sex with her (I assume so cos that's what most people use tinder for) then why does it matter about that?

Ah ok fair enough, I am gonna go on the date to see how it goes and just see what happens

I know it sounds bad but I just think that we won't have many things in common to actually talk about and if there is a big intelligence gap then things might not be great. She does seem nice though and she looks really good so I'm just not sure what to do.

Well tbf I made a judgement based on what limited information I had which is what most people do on tinder anyway and you have made a judgement on me bases on one thread which is a lot less that I had to go on when talking to this girl so really you have done exactly the same thing as me.

I didn't judge you on the basis of you going to uni or not - I judged you on the basis of thinking you're too smart for a girl and making a thread about it. Your subsequent replies also make you sound like a judgemental prick. You clearly tried to link her intellect with the fact she doesn't go uni, which is irrelevant.

If I had now judged you for your social class, appearance or otherwise, then yes, you could say I did the same thing as you.

Yeah I'm hoping that too. I do actually want it to go well because she does seem nice.

What I meant is that you judged me based on what limited information you had which is what I had done to her and I have repeatedly said there are other things that make her seem quite immature, not just not going to uni. So how do my replies make me sound like a judgemental prick?

I feel bad because we do have some similar interests and we seem to get on but I m thinking about cancelling the date because of the fact she isn't at uni

she left college and now id just a waitress

Fair enough but its the truth, a waitress isn't exactly a good job.

I know it sounds bad but I just think that we won't have many things in common to actually talk about and if there is a big intelligence gap then things might not be great. She does seem nice though and she looks really good so I'm just not sure what to do.

How so? For a start I did decent a levels at college and got good grades and ended up in a good uni. Surely that shows intelligence?

Since you want to play the "Oh I am so innocent card", let me help you out.

Some others may have not noticed, but I can see that you have already changed your original post, probably because you realised you sounded like a "judgmental prick".

Just some quotes from you earlier:

I bet you forgot that you said that?


Sure you meant "is", but you sure sound lovely. When questioned about it, your response was:

Charming

Unless she is braindead, I find it hard to believe there is this huge intelligence gap. You say you guys have some similar interests, but still won't have anything to talk about? Contradiction much? Or was you looking to date yourself...


If you believe that, implying that this girl isn't intelligent because she didn't meet this grand feat...I repeat, "Poor girl...".

Just a quick update. She cancelled the date saying that she had been seeing someone else and things were going well so we shouldn't meet up. The thing that gets me is that the cinema was her idea and there was only a week between arranging the date and when it was supposed to happen so I don't see how she could've started seeing someone properly and for it to be going really well in that short space of time.