I’m not dating outside my class again

This might be a really unpopular post but as the title said. I’m a middle class girl and I was raised with good parents and social etiquette, and good morals. And I’m not saying that all middle class people are good and polite people because there’s plenty of tory.

But I recently dated this guy from the ghetto, he was basically a roadman, for 6 months and it was the worst experience of my life. All my friends asked why I was with him, that he was a loser and he wasn’t nice and had no class. Despite this I was very taken with him. But he would sleep all day, not caring if he didn’t show up for me, he would follow tacky pornstars, do really loser-y stuff, he was dumb, couldn’t even swim. And eventually ghosted me which even after so many months still hurts so bad. We had absolutely nothing in common, I go to university whereas he was not even working, hadn’t even passed gcses at 21 years old. He sometimes doesn’t even understand the stuff I was saying. My mum wanted me to drop him from the start and said he’d be no good for me and wanted me to go for someone “more like me”. I just never listened and I have to say she’s right at the end of it all. I also never felt that comfortable with him because of gang vibes. I’ve also dated other guys who were really lower class and I’ve always been shocked by their sexism and mistreatment.

I’m not saying all people who are working class are like this at all, I literally just don’t want to risk it again. I know it’s a case of me picking bad guys but I’d rather be with a bad guy that was similar to me and had similar morals and education than a bad guy who was a bum with no morals and mo education. Am I wrong? I’m not a tory btw but this is what has always been instilled in me which I’ve always ignored till now. I’m 21.

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Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

This might be a really unpopular post but as the title said. I’m a middle class girl and I was raised with good parents and social etiquette, and good morals. And I’m not saying that all middle class people are good and polite people because there’s plenty of tory *****.

But I recently dated this guy from the ghetto, he was basically a roadman, for 6 months and it was the worst experience of my life. All my friends asked why I was with him, that he was a loser and he wasn’t nice and had no class. Despite this I was very taken with him. But he would sleep all day, not caring if he didn’t show up for me, he would follow tacky pornstars, do really loser-y stuff, he was dumb, couldn’t even swim. And eventually ghosted me which even after so many months still hurts so bad. We had absolutely nothing in common, I go to university whereas he was not even working, hadn’t even passed gcses at 21 years old. He sometimes doesn’t even understand the stuff I was saying. My mum wanted me to drop him from the start and said he’d be no good for me and wanted me to go for someone “more like me”. I just never listened and I have to say she’s right at the end of it all. I also never felt that comfortable with him because of gang vibes. I’ve also dated other guys who were really lower class and I’ve always been shocked by their sexism and mistreatment.

I’m not saying all people who are working class are like this at all, I literally just don’t want to risk it again. I know it’s a case of me picking bad guys but I’d rather be with a bad guy that was similar to me and had similar morals and education than a bad guy who was a bum with no morals and mo education. Am I wrong? I’m not a tory btw but this is what has always been instilled in me which I’ve always ignored till now. I’m 21.

idk if you’re a troll or what, but your entire post has nothing go do with class lmao? I know many “upper” and “middle” class people who are incredibly lazy after having everything served to them on a silver platter, and countless of hard working “working” class people.

Stop trying to use your poor taste in men to be classist. Anyone with a dribble of sense would know better to expect a literal roadmap to suddenly become the next idk Albert Einstein - he’s on the road for a reason...

Reply 2

harrysbar

I would never trust anyone who hadn't achieved at least their Puffin swimming badge

Reply 3

londonmyst

Choosing that dealbreaker is fine. :smile:

It is your dating life, your future and your right to decide on your own dealbreakers & relationship preferences.
Good luck!

Reply 4

username4986690

Thank you for informing us of your new dating preferences, your highness.

I will endeavour to update the records to ensure they are fully up to date.

Reply 5

Reality Check

Original post by harrysbar

I would never trust anyone who hadn't achieved at least their Puffin swimming badge

This was the bit that made me laugh the most. Would she be interested in me, do you think?

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Reply 6

Surnia

Original post by Anonymous

I’d rather be with a bad guy that was similar to me and had similar morals and education than a bad guy who was a bum with no morals and mo education.

But isn't someone a bad guy because they lack morals? In which case, you are saying you lack morals because you want a bad guy similar to you.

Reply 7

harrysbar

Original post by Reality Check

This was the bit that made me laugh the most. Would she be interested in me, do you think?

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Only if your breast stroke is on point

Reply 8

username5809589

At the end of the day its your decision

Reply 9

username4986690

Original post by harrysbar

Only if your breast stroke is on point

Reply 10

Kovalensky

Original post by Anonymous

he was a loser and he wasn’t nice and had no class. Despite this I was very taken with him. But he would sleep all day, not caring if he didn’t show up for me, he would follow tacky pornstars, do really loser-y stuff, he was dumb, couldn’t even swim. We had absolutely nothing in common, I go to university whereas he was not even working, hadn’t even passed gcses at 21 years old. He sometimes doesn’t even understand the stuff I was saying.

why were you then ''taken with him''??

Reply 11

heccyeah

Original post by harrysbar

Only if your breast stroke is on point

Reply 12

Cat?

Boys we did it :awesome:

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Reply 13

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

This might be a really unpopular post but as the title said. I’m a middle class girl and I was raised with good parents and social etiquette, and good morals. And I’m not saying that all middle class people are good and polite people because there’s plenty of tory *****.

But I recently dated this guy from the ghetto, he was basically a roadman, for 6 months and it was the worst experience of my life. All my friends asked why I was with him, that he was a loser and he wasn’t nice and had no class. Despite this I was very taken with him. But he would sleep all day, not caring if he didn’t show up for me, he would follow tacky pornstars, do really loser-y stuff, he was dumb, couldn’t even swim. And eventually ghosted me which even after so many months still hurts so bad. We had absolutely nothing in common, I go to university whereas he was not even working, hadn’t even passed gcses at 21 years old. He sometimes doesn’t even understand the stuff I was saying. My mum wanted me to drop him from the start and said he’d be no good for me and wanted me to go for someone “more like me”. I just never listened and I have to say she’s right at the end of it all. I also never felt that comfortable with him because of gang vibes. I’ve also dated other guys who were really lower class and I’ve always been shocked by their sexism and mistreatment.

I’m not saying all people who are working class are like this at all, I literally just don’t want to risk it again. I know it’s a case of me picking bad guys but I’d rather be with a bad guy that was similar to me and had similar morals and education than a bad guy who was a bum with no morals and mo education. Am I wrong? I’m not a tory btw but this is what has always been instilled in me which I’ve always ignored till now. I’m 21.

It is your decision and you can choose your dealbreakers but I think you should bear in mind that all working class men are different, and not everyone from working-class backgrounds will be like your ex.

Reply 14

TSRAcc20

I agree with the post, but I don't think it has anything to do with class - you just happened to pick a lazy douchebag

Reply 15

Anonymous #4

'very taken with him'
'hadn’t even passed gcses at 21 years old'
I think that speaks for itself

'was dumb, couldn’t even swim'
I got all 9s in my GCSEs and have never dipped a toe in a swimming pool

Reply 16

Anonymous #5

Original post by Anonymous

I got all 9s in my GCSEs and have never dipped a toe in a swimming pool

My spouse has a phd and can't swim. :laugh:

Reply 17

londonmyst

Original post by Anonymous

Congratulations on both achievements! :woo:

Reply 18

Anonymous #4

Original post by Anonymous

My spouse has a phd and can't swim. :laugh:

My parents just couldn't be bothered to ever take me to the pool

Reply 19

Anonymous #1

Original post by Anonymous

Not making yourself learn an important life skill isn’t very smart and isn’t really something to brag about. There’s a difference between being academically smart and having common sense