Well, I'm from a very traditional Gujurati Hindu family, who claim that I must marry a Patel, who must be a Hindu, from a certain *part* of Gujurat - so I reckon a lot of the Indian people here are pretty lucky from what I've read!
I accept that they won't ever accept a non-Indian/Muslim person into their family, so I have to be pretty guarded about not falling in love with someone like that (is that even possible, lol?!). Nevertheless I'm stuck a bit here, I wouldn't personally mind dating a white guy, for example - but I have very traditional parents (they are also much older than normal - 55, and I'm 18) And I love my parents and am really close - don't really want to hurt them, but I suppose if it entails my long-term happiness...
Problem is that I'm about half-coconut, hence a bit stuck!. Music-wise, while I love Indian Bollywood music, I also like the rock/indie scene (never really an "Indian" thing), while I love good indian films, I'm fussy about a lot of the crap Bollywood churns out, love Indian weddings etc/wearing Indian clothes - but somehow I still find I'm not on the same wavelength as other indian people. Not to mention I'm doing a philosophy degree - not apparently adequately "intellectual" or "cash-churning" for most Indians in my society, unfortunately.... (they'd prefer I'd do Law, Medicine or Dentistry...). Most people related to me obviously view me from a contemptuous point of view, and think I'm a coconut...
I personally do really want to marry an Indian guy (as mentioned above I have a high regard for my culture and don't really want to break away from it), but then I'm really going to struggle if I marry a normal trad. Indian, since I have liberal views. Also, a lot of the Indians brought up within a culture like that are either total conformers, or total rebels....
Ahhh I'm so confused!
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