British/European boys, would you date a Latina girl?

British/European boys, would you date a Latina girl who's 4'9 ft tall?

British/European boys, would you date a Latina girl who's 4'9 ft tall?

British/European boys, would you date a Latina girl who's 4'9 ft tall?

Sorry but why does race matter? Its 2024

Because people generally only date people that they find attractive, and whether or not you find someone attractive will depend on their appearance. People of different races look different, and it's entirely natural that some people will be more attracted to certain races than others. It doesn't mean an individual will always or never find anyone of a particular race attractive, but people will definitely notice patterns in finding people of certain races generally more or less attractive than others. That's not something that people can control. It is just how attraction works.

Which means, in answer to the OP's question, that plenty of guys on here, and indeed in the real world, find Latina girls attractive generally, just as some don't. That's not guarantee that they will find you attractive, of course, but neither your race nor your height will stop guys wanting to date you.

I completely understand that by definition the prospect of dating someone and being selective is inherently discrimination by nature.

I just think people who exclusively date a certain race are a bit strange (I had a friend in college who loved the idea of being with Japanese women but he refused to date anyone else then after a while he got depressed about it as he was single for a long while) I think a few years later he is normal about it, as in, he doesn't exclusively date a certain race. Just my opinion

I find it odd for someone to only date people from a particular race but not a member of that race.

On social media, i have watched and read some wild statements such as “I only date black guys” (from a non-black woman) or “I really like only white girls or Indian girls” (from one who is not white or Indian).

I completely understand that by definition the prospect of dating someone and being selective is inherently discrimination by nature.

I just think people who exclusively date a certain race are a bit strange (I had a friend in college who loved the idea of being with Japanese women but he refused to date anyone else then after a while he got depressed about it as he was single for a long while) I think a few years later he is normal about it, as in, he doesn't exclusively date a certain race. Just my opinion

Sorry but why does race matter? Its 2024

Because people generally only date people that they find attractive, and whether or not you find someone attractive will depend on their appearance. People of different races look different, and it's entirely natural that some people will be more attracted to certain races than others. It doesn't mean an individual will always or never find anyone of a particular race attractive, but people will definitely notice patterns in finding people of certain races generally more or less attractive than others. That's not something that people can control. It is just how attraction works.

Which means, in answer to the OP's question, that plenty of guys on here, and indeed in the real world, find Latina girls attractive generally, just as some don't. That's not guarantee that they will find you attractive, of course, but neither your race nor your height will stop guys wanting to date you.

I agree.

I think it's normal to be either a) exclusively attracted to your own race or b) open to dating any race / ethnicity. I'm generally suspicious of those who are exclusively attracted to one race. IMHO, it's almost like they secretly wish they were that race.

I'll maybe make an exception for those who were, say, of race "A" but were brought up surrounded by race "B", so naturally identify with the associated values etc.

For me, as a black guy, I find quite often the black people who exclusively date white people, often have a really hostile and negative view to other black people. I can't speak for other persons of colour who exclusively date white people

I agree with most of what you said, but I don't think it's something people can't control... I'm not buying that. Having a racial preference is not the same as being gay / lesbian. Personally, I believe most racial preferences are a result of social conditioning (i.e. they're learnt). IMHO, most people (who are not inherently racist / xenophobic) are capable of finding other races attractive if they're open minded. It can literally take one significant event for people to have their eyes opened.

For example, even as recent as the 1980's, it wasn't "normal" for white people to find black people attractive (unless they were of a very specific demographic and / or personality type). However in 1994, Will Smith changed that in the film Bad Boys. In 2003 Beyoncé did a similar thing with the music video Crazy In Love. These respective performances opened a lot of peoples eyes; many of whom wouldn't have contemplated finding a black person physically / sexually attractive.

Similarly, take a white guy who's only ever looked at white women... and (for whatever reason) he's in some remote part of India for an indefinite period. Chances are he'll start to consider some South Asian women, who can demonstrate they meet some of his other dating criteria (either that, or he'll maybe become a Buddhist Monk, lol). On the other hand, a truly straight guy would never consider a relationship with another guy; even if there was an extreme shortage of women wherever he was (the possible exception being if they were in prison... but even that's just a means to an end).

This is an interesting discussion. As it happens I don't actually disagree with any of this. When I say that people can't control attraction, I mean that they can't make an active choice in the moment to find someone attractive when they do not find them attractive. I entirely agree that social factors can influence that, and indeed I agree that there are things that people can do themselves that can alter who and what they find attractive. Your example in that respect of just spending more time around those of other ethnicities is a perfect example of that. I didn't mean to completely absolve people of responsibility in that respect. If people do not find certain individuals attractive because of prejudices, that is something that can and should be addressed, though probably for better reasons than attraction. I also agree that people indicating that they will only date a particular ethnic group, particularly when it's not their own, but also honestly when it is to a degree, that that is indicative of some sort of prejudice.

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So actually, I agree with everything you've said. At the same time, I do stand by my point that not generally finding people of particular ethnicities attractive, or finding them less attractive than others, isn't a discriminatory stance to take, and isn't necessarily indicative of prejudice either (though I can see arguments to say that it will always be indicative of some level of prejudice, even if it's institutionalised or deeply subconscious)