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    OP I think there could be better understanding from both sides. He isnt opening up as to whats wrong with him, if he doesnt talk to you you can't know. But what I think is the problem is that... well.. do you view sex as 'making love' or 'sex' ? He might want to have you cuddled next to him in a big jumper, no make up, no fancy underwear.. just you.. and have meaningful sex that wasn't expected..
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    (Original post by Bazlehman)
    I'd always asumed lady juices would taste like the old style five Alive.boy was I wrong.
    This killed me looooool +1
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    Maybe he just isn't into the whole trying-too-hard thing?
    You've set the bar high, and he now knows he can get pretty much anything off you if he did want it.
    Just talk to him about it, it all depends on preference. I know that my boyfriend wouldn't personally be interested in most of the things you mentioned, he just finds them a little tacky.
    ASK HIM.
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    (Original post by Rananagirl)
    Maybe he just isn't into the whole trying-too-hard thing?
    You've set the bar high, and he now knows he can get pretty much anything off you if he did want it.
    Just talk to him about it, it all depends on preference. I know that my boyfriend wouldn't personally be interested in most of the things you mentioned, he just finds them a little tacky.
    ASK HIM.
    True, I think trying too much has worked to my disadvantage. The things I mentioned were a few among many things I've tried, in an attempt to gauge what he prefers. But if he doesn't know what he prefers himself, or won't tell me, how am I to know?! And yes, I have already asked him. Quite a few times, in different ways. Including straight up asked him what he likes in bed. He said he wasn't sure, and that it depends. The conversation doesn't usually go further than that.

    What are your boyfriends preferences if you don't mind me asking?


    (Original post by insignificant)
    OP I think there could be better understanding from both sides. He isnt opening up as to whats wrong with him, if he doesnt talk to you you can't know. But what I think is the problem is that... well.. do you view sex as 'making love' or 'sex' ? He might want to have you cuddled next to him in a big jumper, no make up, no fancy underwear.. just you.. and have meaningful sex that wasn't expected..
    You make a really good point. Sex can be all sorts of things to me. Sometimes I just want pure raw animal-like pounding, sometimes all I want is the intimacy and therefore close, meaningful sex, sometimes I want something naughty but nice. He does love the simple, innocent, no-make up, big jumper thing though. That's what I'm like most days to be honest; I wear comfy clothes, very little or no make-up and love just snuggling with him. We are both snuggle-monsters But it doesn't lead to anything more. If he won't open up to me, and I've tried guessing through trial and error, what can I do next?
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    (Original post by the cake lady)
    Walter Ego, I think I like you as a friend
    Oh no, friendzoned :eek:
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    Reading through this thread again... And it just seems surreal. This woman seems perfect on paper- anal, lap-dancing, lingerie, porn fantasies, etc; and she's being wasted away! Oh, the humanity...
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    Probs doesn't fancy you as much anymore.
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    >"My BF is uptight in bed and disgusted by my lady juices"
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    (Original post by the cake lady)
    I'm done being anonymous, it takes too long for mods to let it go up.
    Anyone who has replied in the last hour or so, I made a post a couple of hours ago that has only just appeared, a little bit higher up.

    Hippieglitter, I have tried doing exactly what you said, in fact in those exact same words. I said 'why don't you want me?' he said 'I do want you' and I said 'well why don't you [insert any 4 lettered word meaning 'have sex with'] me?' and that's when he came up with the reasons like sometimes it's just not a good time to/he can't be bothered sometimes/would rather do it later at night. I demanded answers straight up, and I didn't get them. What I did get was a very upset boyfriend who thought it was unfair I was having a go at him, and it affected his confidence quite a lot. Woops.

    Tsukuyomi, I have also done exactly this. He plays along for a while then loses interest, and doesn't actually do me.

    To everyone who has said things like 'marry me!' and 'you sound fantastic', thank you for the support/invitation. Hehehe. It is quite nice to hear that people would appreciate me. But is it also slightly wrong that I have been a teensy bit tempted to PM people back, even just jokingly?
    Ok, you seem to have tried everything I could suggest. Tbh honey, He seems too be very defensive. Personally I wouldn't call you shallow for breaking up with him over sex, because having got this far I don't think it is solely about sex anymore.

    He has been mean, hurtful, unfair and if he wants to talk about self esteem just think what he's doing to yours? All this rejection can hardly be good for you. Sex is a huge part of any relationship unless you are hard core religious and if he is not going to a) **** your brains out when you want him to or b) try and make you feel even a little bit good about yourself he is very bad boyfriend and doesn't deserve you or anyone else.

    Think about all these guys replying, you could find any number of guys like that, a guy who would appreciate all the effort your making, a guy who could satisfy you and then some. Just think about what you are missing out on by staying with this pathetic little ****.
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    (Original post by FrigidSymphony)
    Reading through this thread again... And it just seems surreal. This woman seems perfect on paper- anal, lap-dancing, lingerie, porn fantasies, etc; and she's being wasted away! Oh, the humanity...
    This.
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    (Original post by FrigidSymphony)
    Reading through this thread again... And it just seems surreal. This woman seems perfect on paper- anal, lap-dancing, lingerie, porn fantasies, etc; and she's being wasted away! Oh, the humanity...
    (Original post by Victor-PP)
    This.
    That's quite nice to hear hehe. Thank you for the boost! I don't think I'm perfect on paper to everyone though. I'm just open-minded about sex. Perfect suggests I'd be to everyone's taste, but I think that's far from the case. Some people on this thread said they think what I've tried is a bit tacky and they/their boyfriends wouldn't be into any of it at all.


    (Original post by DaneCook)
    Probs doesn't fancy you as much anymore.
    2 months in?! It's not like I just suddenly let myself go or anything.

    (Original post by hippieglitter)
    Ok, you seem to have tried everything I could suggest. Tbh honey, He seems too be very defensive. Personally I wouldn't call you shallow for breaking up with him over sex, because having got this far I don't think it is solely about sex anymore.

    He has been mean, hurtful, unfair and if he wants to talk about self esteem just think what he's doing to yours? All this rejection can hardly be good for you. Sex is a huge part of any relationship unless you are hard core religious and if he is not going to a) **** your brains out when you want him to or b) try and make you feel even a little bit good about yourself he is very bad boyfriend and doesn't deserve you or anyone else.

    Think about all these guys replying, you could find any number of guys like that, a guy who would appreciate all the effort your making, a guy who could satisfy you and then some. Just think about what you are missing out on by staying with this pathetic little ****.
    Thank you for the words of support.
    I don't think he is a very bad boyfriend to be honest. Yeah in some ways, obviously. But he is quite an incredible person and we have a very good relationship other than when it comes to sex. Eventually, yeah I agree, the sex life is going to start impacting on other areas. But until then... I think he's worth trying just a wee bit more for.
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    (Original post by the cake lady)
    That's quite nice to hear hehe. Thank you for the boost! I don't think I'm perfect on paper to everyone though. I'm just open-minded about sex. Perfect suggests I'd be to everyone's taste, but I think that's far from the case. Some people on this thread said they think what I've tried is a bit tacky and they/their boyfriends wouldn't be into any of it at all.
    You're welcome

    You're definitely not to everyone's taste, but as you can see, most of us would all kill to have a gf like you, sexually wise, I mean. And this is coming from a guy with a lovely girlfriend.

    Don't let your bf make you feel bad. You've done nothing wrong.
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    Any new developments? Any new ideas got rejected?
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    he needs to talk with you about what he thinks about sex, what does it mean to him in relationship with you?
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    I actually wish you were here. Find me
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    Hiya, well i am in agreement with the majority, i think he is a closet gay, maybe play a game where you both write down things you want done to you by your partner and see how much anal comes up ( no pun inteneded) in his list, and if he still isnt intersted send me an email we can meet up lol
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    How can one not like the juices... That just ain't normal. Dump the fool and find someone who appreciates you.
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    (Original post by spocckka)
    Why are men not allowed to not want sex? Grow up.
    He's perfectly entitled not to want sex, and not to want sex at any given moment (including midway through). She's perfectly entitled to view it as a deal-breaker, or to decide it's not what she wants from a relationship. It'd be absurd to break up over being turned down once--but equally so to stay in a relationship that didn't make you happy in the longer term.
 
 
 
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