"Don't look for a girlfriend/boyfriend" Is that true or complete crap?

Complete crap.
Obviously crap for men - they have to approach women for anything to happen, and women they find attractive and whom seem like relationship material if they want more.
But for girls too.
- Approachability. You can't stand in a group of girls (or worse yet - men), with arms crossed against your body and a sour puss and expect men to approach you. Smile, have an open body language, don't go out with men and limit the amount of girls you're with. No man wants to approach 5 girls and then be responsible for entertaining the whole group (or worse yet, be made fun of in front of them).
- Attractiveness. Doing your hair and makeup once a month going to a club doesn't count. Some girls seem to think of their league according to their potential. It doesn't matter if you can be an 8 dressed up, if that happens once in a fortnight. What you look like daily is your level. If you go to school or work in sweat pants and sneakers, you're a a 4 maximum and don't expect to attract men beyond that. Take care of yourself if you want to appear feminine and most importantly - someone who's positive, likes to feel good and embraces life, not just "goes through it".
- Filtering. If you spend your time with morons, *******s, men who "aren't looking for commitment", "just want to be friends" or "focusing on work right now", you won't find the guy. For any attractive woman, filtering is a big part of it. You are responsible for your own romantic happiness and any time spent with time-wasters, is time off the market when you COULD have met the right guy.
- You have to put yourself out there. You won't meet a man unless you're meeting men. Over a year you can be around 100,000 who's eligible, 10,000 who likes you, 100 who approaches you, 10 you like back, 5 who goes beyond a second date which will result in 1 who turns into a relationship. And that relationship won't necessarily result in marriage. Some women are desperate and will schedule a date with anyone who approaches them. But if you have standards, chemistry is rare and the women who get men they are compatible with long term expose themselves to loads of men. That perfect one won't come knocking at your door. You have to expand your social circle, meet people at school or work, go to parties, go to the gym, go to bars and have hobbies to meet men daily if you are to find the right guy. For the one right guy there are 1000 wrongs.

These could also be turned around to men - except approachability. Finding the right person doesn't "just happen". Sure when it does happen it feels like a coincidence, but there were steps leading up to that. Ignore people who say "don't change" and "it happens when it happens". If you're under 25, you have a lot of improving and growing up to do. The idea that people are fully formed as an 18 year old is bizarre. You have to improve yourself. If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.

Let's be real tea; which man in his right mind would would want a relationship with a modern day woman?

No thanks Jeffery.

But I think that the UK is in a unique position in regards to this compared to other Western nations. There's a higher proportion of ruthless pump and dumpers (think the LAD culture) which I think is a good thing socially (although not from a personal standpoint as there's more competition ).

- You have to put yourself out there. You won't meet a man unless you're meeting men. Over a year you can be around 100,000 who's eligible, 10,000 who likes you, 100 who approaches you, 10 you like back, 5 who goes beyond a second date which will result in 1 who turns into a relationship. And that relationship won't necessarily result in marriage. Some women are desperate and will schedule a date with anyone who approaches them. But if you have standards, chemistry is rare and the women who get men they are compatible with long term expose themselves to loads of men. That perfect one won't come knocking at your door. You have to expand your social circle, meet people at school or work, go to parties, go to the gym, go to bars and have hobbies to meet men daily if you are to find the right guy. For the one right guy there are 1000 wrongs.

These could also be turned around to men - except approachability. Finding the right person doesn't "just happen". Sure when it does happen it feels like a coincidence, but there were steps leading up to that. Ignore people who say "don't change" and "it happens when it happens". If you're under 25, you have a lot of improving and growing up to do. The idea that people are fully formed as an 18 year old is bizarre. You have to improve yourself. If you want something you've never had, you have to do something you've never done.

Excellent advice and it prompted me to ask, Do you happen to read 'The Rules Revisited' blog by any chance?

That blog has some ridiculous posts.

No thanks Jeff? Uaware?

And I agree, lol the UK does have a large LAD culture haha

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Your post reminded me of this:

Which ones would you say are ridiculous?

Excellent advice and it prompted me to ask, Do you happen to read 'The Rules Revisited' blog by any chance?

The last time someone cited it, I took exception to the 'never initiate contact' post.