I feel recently that I can't feel vulnerable around people, and that I can't feel love any more.
I dated a guy when I was 17. I was deeply in love with him and I felt like he was the love of my life. But he hurt me a lot - he was physically abusive. I put all my love into that relationship to the point that it got toxic. Four months after we broke up, I started dating another guy. We dated for about 3 years, were planning to get married and then we broke up because the distance made us drift apart. To deal with the pain of that breakup, I didn't cry for a long time. I just blocked it all out. I told myself I can be strong. And I've been independent ever since, not allowing anything to affect me so easily.
Since him. I've dated casually. I don't pine for the exes, but how it could have been. I haven't been in a serious relationship for 3 years.
It's a stumbling block. I don't get intense love feelings or crushes with most guys. I don't get weepy or soppy or romantic over cheesy movies or songs. When I go on dates, it takes longer for romantic feelings to be triggered and I haven't felt anything for anyone, even guys I would have fallen hook, line and sinker for in the past. I meet guys I like sometimes, and never have any kind of spark that I've had with certain guys in the past. I always feel like I'm holding something back.
Can anyone help? I want to feel love again but I just can't seem to feel anything anymore! Has anyone ever experienced this?