Is helping the opposite gender considered cheating

Hi so I was hanging out with my partner of 9 months when I received a phone call from a friend who I used to know at my old workplace we barely used to be friends and would speak every now and then the call lasts around 20 minutes and my partner asks who it was acknowledging I made an obvious mistake I say it was nothing but she thinking that helping someone and in the company of your girlfriend is considered cheating especially to helping resolving another girl problems as she came to me for help is this 1. Disrespectful 2. Considered Cheating and 3. Do you think she’ll come back to me over this as I find it harsh.

it's literally none of the above unless we're missing some details... you just interacted in a friendly manner with another human being. like, regardless of the gender of that person all you did was chat?? if you're girlfriend isn't letting you INTERACT with other women then yikes, don't want to extrapolate but i would leave

In my opinion it's a little bit disrespectful, perhaps explain the situation to your partner first or ask if you can help later instead of immediately answering the call and helping. I personally cannot see how how that can be considered cheating (feel free to disagree) , that sounds kind of controlling. If she doesn't come back to you, then perhaps you dodged a bullet. Hope everything works out.

In my opinion it's a little bit disrespectful, perhaps explain the situation to your partner first or ask if you can help later instead of immediately answering the call and helping. I personally cannot see how how that can be considered cheating (feel free to disagree) , that sounds kind of controlling. If she doesn't come back to you, then perhaps you dodged a bullet. Hope everything works out.

genuine question i don't mean to come across as rude, why do you think it is disrespectful?

This isn't cheating.

Hi so I was hanging out with my partner of 9 months when I received a phone call from a friend who I used to know at my old workplace we barely used to be friends and would speak every now and then the call lasts around 20 minutes and my partner asks who it was acknowledging I made an obvious mistake I say it was nothing but she thinking that helping someone and in the company of your girlfriend is considered cheating especially to helping resolving another girl problems as she came to me for help is this 1. Disrespectful 2. Considered Cheating and 3. Do you think she’ll come back to me over this as I find it harsh.

I help people all the time - it's not cheating it's being a human. [I'm married and we both help friends of either gender]

I literally helped with her knowing my phone password the social media that I use which is snap, whatsapp and tiktok and knowing I only speak to 3 girls, 2 being friends from my old workplace as mentioned and my sister yet she thinks this is cheating will she come back

genuine question i don't mean to come across as rude, why do you think it is disrespectful?

I even showed her proof of screenshots of the actual conversation which showed no flirtatious messages just reassurance, guidance and helpful tips and advice yet this is being considered cheating she hadn’t spoken for 3 days till I initiated to speak to her today before she told me why she didn’t spoke what do you think guys is she coming back
You have not done anything wrong so if she doesn't come back then there's nothing you can do, it's her loss. Also, it's important that you don't become too desperate and worry about it too much, these things happen and I'm sure you'll find someone else if she doesn't change her mind, don't grovel or apologise too much.

I think it's a bit disrespectful because your partner is important to you and you're supposed to be paying attention to them, by taking the call it can be interpreted as you not being interested in them or valuing someone else over your partner. That being said, its only slightly disrespectful and it sounds like the response was disproportionate.

I literally helped with her knowing my phone password the social media that I use which is snap, whatsapp and tiktok and knowing I only speak to 3 girls, 2 being friends from my old workplace as mentioned and my sister yet she thinks this is cheating will she come back

Do you really want to be with someone that freaks out when you help someone? I think she has the problem, not you.

She was the one thinking helping cheating but is there a point where she’s coming from or do I just completely forget about it and assume she’s not coming back.