Hey, i'm 21 (a guy), and I was always shy until about a year or two ago. At college/Uni, I'd always sit quite quietly, wouldn't speak unless I was spoken to, didn't like asking for help. When we'd get our feedback at college... my tutor always used to tell me I should "come out of my shell".
Since then, I've been working in retail (not my life long goal!!), and I've HAD to speak to customers - serving on a till, customer help etc, and also since I made a few new friends at college, who are kinda loud/funny, I've become more confident.
Now, I'll speak to anyone, I'll be the one saying "hello" first, I'll make people laugh which I like doing, and I've even been told off at work for chatting!
But today at work, someone made a joke about someone's boyfriend. It wasn't in anyway offensive, and anyone would see it as a joke. So I went and told her the joke that someone made about her boyfriend, and she was saying I was a "grasser" and "immature". She didn't like it - when she's someone who is always joking and can take a joke.
Someone else said I shouldn't have said it, and it felt like people were against me. I've never had that before in my life. It's just put me really down. People said I never spoke before, but now I am, it's like people won't like me, and because I'm not over-confident like some, I guess I say the wrong things.
Where I work, almost everyone chats about everyone - in nice & some bad ways. I'd never repeat something if it wasn't jokey. I'm not like that. But, maybe now I should just go back to the quiet one like I was before? At least then I didn't feel upset/down about anything.