Premarital Sex?

But it can also ruin it...

Yeah but so can Football ... anything can ruin a relationship - I dont think that sex is more likely to than most things ... Money, work, family ... creamcheese...

hell ... anything

What if a couple does decide to have sex, and they are madly in love with eachother.. their personalities everything. And they have sex for the first time, BUT one decides the other doesn't perform well enough in bed so they leave. You're telling me that wouldn't be wrong?
OR what if someone on a whim has sex with someone they wouldn't consider dating? And the sex is REALLY good.. and they decide to date.. leading the other person on in a relationship based solely on sex, is also wrong.

lol, creamcheese? lol, how?

You dont want to know

And what if that happens after they were married? Are you saying that the unsatisfied party then couldn't leave? And if someone were that flighty, would you want to marry them anyway?



I'm not saying sex can't make relationships bad. But there are plenty of bad marriages, too. Relationships can hurt, with or without sex. People can lead others to marriage based on money, a need for security, lots of other things. Pre-marital sex is not 'wrong' solely by definition.

lol, no now you've peaked my curiousity. I want to know.

Of course there are bad marriages, but you can't base happiness solely on sex. THATS bound to end.

Well if you throw it at someone - that can end the relationship ... its really hard to get out of your hair, and stinks

Well you cant base long term happiness on it, but you can sure as hell base 1 night's happiness on it

Is it true that people are having sex at younger ages every year? And if so, what about the affects of having it before marriage.. both the physical and the emotional trauma that can be suffered from having sex before you are ready can be devastating.
How do you feel about premarital sex?

EDIT: oh and please, if you're going to vote tell us why!

But that 1 night could emotionally hurt someone if they believe that there is something there..

But having sex before marriage doesn't mean that it's the foundation of the relationship. It's just another aspect.

But back to love, what if someone loved that person with ALL of their heart but the other person decides to leave because the sex is bad. Wouldn't that be devastating to the other person?
I understand where you are coming from on this, but I don't entirely agree with it.

I don't see why people make such a big deal about sex. I mean, what's the fuss? What the heck difference does it make if you have sex before marriage? You go to hell, or have a crap marriage, or what?

So you are saying that people shouldnt have sex because they might find out the sex is bad? Its better that its a secret until you are bound together for all eternity?

If a person is so shallow as to base a relationship solely on sex, then I wouldn't want to be bound to that person.

I voted yes becuase i believe that you should be able do what you want with your body, and not restricted by say, religion. I mean, what if you dont get married until your 32?!

What if you dont ever want to get married ? Strap on that chastity belt!