2.5 years on, and still miss her?

it seems that you're like this is because you didnt get full closure, you blocked her emails/ didnt wanna read them, and now, you dont have complete closure from the relationship, so you cannot move on.


Talk to her, have a long long talk, work out why things went wrong, and if you can, try to convince your parents, that the only thing that would make you happy, is being with her... nothing else, maybe then, they would try to be a bit more understanding, if they want what is best for you, they would not want you to be miserable for the rest of your life, without the person you love the most. Ask your parents what they would feel if they didnt have each other.

This ain't nothing bro me and my ex still have attachment issues 4 years on...

I think the issue is the emails thing... you never read them so your subconscious is curious and so you keep thinking about her and thinking about memories with her and stuff I'm guessing? I think the only way to let go here is address the issue directly - read the emails, reply to them. It doesn't matter what she thinks about you replying after such a long time. This is about your closure.




OH MY GOSH he has feelings!!!
Sorry but I've been seeing so many posts by you today about how you objectify women and seem so cold hearted etc etc I FOUND THE REASON WHY

Nice to hear a lady's POV,

Another problem: I had deleted the emails over a year, any chance of retrieval? And it may sound dumb, but how do I start the reply? Once I get talking I can smooth it out .....

Not sure about retrieving the emails.
Just be honest with her. Something like...
I know we haven't spoken in a long time but I feel as if I still need to get a few things off my chest....

I think i'll try that ... the worst that can happen is ; I dont get a reply right?


BTW you in the same situation?

Yeah exactly

Kind of... I broke things off with my ex a year ago but still think about him quite often. Hoping I will move on properly when I meet someone new, maybe this will help for you too?

I dont know about moving on tbh. I understand that everything is relative to time and that it reduces emotions and everything ... however its about the couple's situation exactly. Like i stated, it feels like we've been together for years ....

Your idea of someone 'new' is just to 'mask' your feelings and time can only reduce them, not nullify them, Again depends on the spark between the couple....

When you someone sincere ie. not only interested sleeping with you but is interested in spending a lifetime (or maybe more with you, who can watch you for hours just sitting still) you will not only forget yr ex but be grateful it was over.....

In life when you loose something, try to find the silver lining (being a bit contradictory here) you always find something better....

I just havent found it this time and its been a while

Oh bless you This is so sad.
Honestly, I would contact her and try to work things out. You clearly loved her and still love her to this day; why deny yourself of this if she still loves you too?
Take action now, you never know what might happen