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How do people have 20+ friends?

MylittlePlusle

How do people ensure that they have time for each of their friends?

Reply 1

scrotgrot

They are not close friends, this is what's called a social circle

Reply 2

preetg97

They're not all real friends.

Reply 3

username927016

They are all probably not real close friends & I suppose they get them by going out & talking to people/getting contacts with people at work, clubs/activity groups/volunteering & social settings such as bars/clubs/parties etc.

Reply 4

Tiger Rag

Depends how you define "friend"

Reply 5

cambio wechsel

All of my friends are 20+.

Reply 6

Chicken?

I have more than 20 but not all of them are close,I normally see different ones through the day/week so I can talk to them and what have you, there is also social media so it's easy to contact and talk to them now

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Reply 7

Dijobla

by being exhausted all the time. I have a large social circle, a good couple dozen, but a only handful of friends. Last year, before I went travelling, I made the effort to see everyone in my circle- this was not any kind of social experiment lol, it was just because I didn't know how long I'd be gone for- I'd go to everything I was invited to, answer their calls/msgs when I got them (my worst sin, I go for days and weeks without answering msgs), meet them whenever they asked etc. And I was exhausted. I had no time to recharge. I was constantly looking at my phone and not present in real life. I DIDN'T READ A BOOK FOR NEARLY 6 MONTHS. And oddly enough, anytime I spent more than, say, half a day at home, I began to get restless and I had to go out again. So it became an endless circle. What's funny is that I don't even like them all equally, so I don't know why I bothered. And I'm a self confessed introvert/cat-in-human-form, so they didn't even expect it of me. Anyway. I don't do that crap no more. I have around 4/5 friends I make the effort for, and maybe a few more that I'll pencil in if I have really have to.

I guess you didn't really need this lengthy reply, but you got one!

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

I would say that I have 20+ friends, however I have only about 5 very close friends. The others are in my group of friends and so I talk to most of them every day, but not for like 20 minutes. Personally I would rather have a few very very close friends that I could trust with my life rather than tonnes of friends.

Reply 9

Shellshocker93

Original post by preetg97

They're not all real friends.

What is a REAL friend? Always found this confusing, do they have to meet a criteria before they stop being an improper/fake friend?

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Well I'm a really friendly guy who I think am easy to get on with! I work in different cities where I've made friends when staying their for some time and when I post on FB or Snapchat that I am going to a specific place, people take note and see if I am up for a night out or I will message them and ask. We are ALL friends since we talk and banter and enjoy our company.

However I have other friends that I am closer with and can rely on for more serious things and may have known for a long time.

I have 20+ friends but I by no means spend loads of time maintaining these friends, just know each other and when time is appropriate, I socialise with them, we are all adults and just because I've not spoken to someone for months, doesn't mean we stop being friends, that's just ridiculous!