Does it get better after the first term?

So, I finished my first term at university last month and gratefully packed my things, locked my door, dragged my 50lb suitcase across campus, got on a bus and went to the station. I arrived home, promptly forgot all my university woes (or decided that in retrospect, they weren’t as huge as I thought they’d been while on campus) and also forgot about all the revision that needed doing... until last week.

So I head back to Nottingham tomorrow and I’m just dreading it: I hate most of my flatmates (most of them are snide and were mean about/towards me during the first term... I was bullied quite badly at secondary school and the idea of heading back to that snake pit just makes my stomach drop because I’m just BAD at dealing with that sort of thing), I got pretty badly jerked around by this guy on my course, I’m finding it really hard to get motivated and my overdraft debt is the size of a house and I’m just feeling really a lot like I just don’t want to go back.

But I have to. I mean: I’ve already signed on for a house next year (with people who hopefully aren’t Satan’s henchmen) and while I COULD probably find someone else who could be Tenant 3, the paperwork and the fees just sound like a hassle. And there are good things about it: I have some pretty top friends, it’s a course I like (when I do the work: science is fun) but I just feel really overwhelmed about it all.

So: does it get better in the second term? And what can I do to try and expand my circles and put the first term behind me? Should I try and move rooms, or are flatmates from hell just part of university and I just grit my teeth and bear it? What’s your advice?

So, I finished my first term at university last month and gratefully packed my things, locked my door, dragged my 50lb suitcase across campus, got on a bus and went to the station. I arrived home, promptly forgot all my university woes (or decided that in retrospect, they weren’t as huge as I thought they’d been while on campus) and also forgot about all the revision that needed doing... until last week.

So I head back to Nottingham tomorrow and I’m just dreading it: I hate most of my flatmates (most of them are snide and were mean about/towards me during the first term... I was bullied quite badly at secondary school and the idea of heading back to that snake pit just makes my stomach drop because I’m just BAD at dealing with that sort of thing), I got pretty badly jerked around by this guy on my course, I’m finding it really hard to get motivated and my overdraft debt is the size of a house and I’m just feeling really a lot like I just don’t want to go back.

But I have to. I mean: I’ve already signed on for a house next year (with people who hopefully aren’t Satan’s henchmen) and while I COULD probably find someone else who could be Tenant 3, the paperwork and the fees just sound like a hassle. And there are good things about it: I have some pretty top friends, it’s a course I like (when I do the work: science is fun) but I just feel really overwhelmed about it all.

So: does it get better in the second term? And what can I do to try and expand my circles and put the first term behind me? Should I try and move rooms, or are flatmates from hell just part of university and I just grit my teeth and bear it? What’s your advice?

So, I finished my first term at university last month and gratefully packed my things, locked my door, dragged my 50lb suitcase across campus, got on a bus and went to the station. I arrived home, promptly forgot all my university woes (or decided that in retrospect, they weren’t as huge as I thought they’d been while on campus) and also forgot about all the revision that needed doing... until last week.

So I head back to Nottingham tomorrow and I’m just dreading it: I hate most of my flatmates (most of them are snide and were mean about/towards me during the first term... I was bullied quite badly at secondary school and the idea of heading back to that snake pit just makes my stomach drop because I’m just BAD at dealing with that sort of thing), I got pretty badly jerked around by this guy on my course, I’m finding it really hard to get motivated and my overdraft debt is the size of a house and I’m just feeling really a lot like I just don’t want to go back.

But I have to. I mean: I’ve already signed on for a house next year (with people who hopefully aren’t Satan’s henchmen) and while I COULD probably find someone else who could be Tenant 3, the paperwork and the fees just sound like a hassle. And there are good things about it: I have some pretty top friends, it’s a course I like (when I do the work: science is fun) but I just feel really overwhelmed about it all.

So: does it get better in the second term? And what can I do to try and expand my circles and put the first term behind me? Should I try and move rooms, or are flatmates from hell just part of university and I just grit my teeth and bear it? What’s your advice?

I'm at Nottingham too and was about to post almost this exact same thing!

Have quite a few acquaintances, but only a handful friends who I do stuff with now and then, but everyone's got better people to hang round with than me who they're closer to. I don't even have anyone to share a house with because they all made ****ty excuses.

I'm pretty desperate to make new friends this semester too and finally get myself some proper friends for once, I was bullied at school too amongst a whole load of other personal issues. I don't know if uni will be worth the hassle for me if things don't pick up soon, I'm doing badly on coursework too because I never have any motivation.

So don't worry, you're definitely not the only one! It was actually quite a relief to see that someone on here is in almost the exact same situation as me

what r u studying at Uni of Nottingham?

I'm at Nottingham too and was about to post almost this exact same thing!

Have quite a few acquaintances, but only a handful friends who I do stuff with now and then, but everyone's got better people to hang round with than me who they're closer to. I don't even have anyone to share a house with because they all made ****ty excuses.

I'm pretty desperate to make new friends this semester too and finally get myself some proper friends for once, I was bullied at school too amongst a whole load of other personal issues. I don't know if uni will be worth the hassle for me if things don't pick up soon, I'm doing badly on coursework too because I never have any motivation.

So don't worry, you're definitely not the only one! It was actually quite a relief to see that someone on here is in almost the exact same situation as me

I'm at Nottingham too and was about to post almost this exact same thing!

Have quite a few acquaintances, but only a handful friends who I do stuff with now and then, but everyone's got better people to hang round with than me who they're closer to. I don't even have anyone to share a house with because they all made ****ty excuses.

I'm pretty desperate to make new friends this semester too and finally get myself some proper friends for once, I was bullied at school too amongst a whole load of other personal issues. I don't know if uni will be worth the hassle for me if things don't pick up soon, I'm doing badly on coursework too because I never have any motivation.

So don't worry, you're definitely not the only one! It was actually quite a relief to see that someone on here is in almost the exact same situation as me

exactly the same situation as me apart from different uni, ive heard things get better from people, you hear that first terms meant to be great, but really its so topsy turvy with settling in and finding a rhythm that things can only get better i think