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I'm not a big partier, will I still find my crowd?

I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.
Your route to this is to join multiple societies, get to know like-minded individuals who share similar interests as you, try join at least 2/3, as even those who do party, regret not joining any societies.
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Original post by greentiger
Your route to this is to join multiple societies, get to know like-minded individuals who share similar interests as you, try join at least 2/3, as even those who do party, regret not joining any societies.
thank you for the advice! i'll do what i can
Hi there, there is often a misconception that all students enjoy drinking and partying, but this is not necessarily true! There will be many students who also don't deem such activities as fun and find more enjoyment doing other activities. There's plenty of ways to form friendships that don't include partying and drinking at University, whether this is through joining Facebook groups, joining societies that spark your interest, or suggesting a coffee in between classes with your course mates. I'd always encourage people to join a society, whether you are experienced or not in whatever the society is. I joined a society in my final year of University and regretted not doing it sooner as I formed incredible bonds with people that I would never have met without joining the society. Sometimes coming out of your comfort zone and trying new things is the best way to develop friendships with others!

Best of luck at University!

Lauren
WrexhamUniReps
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.
Hi there,

There are so many ways for an extroverted person to make friends at uni without drinking! From joining societies, volunteering, having a part-time job or just bonding with coursemates, you'll be meeting so many new people all the time!

I hope that this helps reassure you!

All the best,
Jaz - Cardiff student rep
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.

Hi @jayks ,

A lot of people think this before they go to uni if they aren't a big fan of drinking and going out so you aren't the only one who thinks this! Try not to worry as it's a lot more common than you'd think for people not to like going out. Of course, a lot of people do but this tends to die down a little bit after freshers week and especially further into the year when people have deadlines approaching.

I would say to ask your flat mates (if you live in halls) to do things that aren't just related to drinking. You could suggest games night or film night. Or also going out for food or cooking together one night if people don't have the money to go out for food. One of my flat mates in first year didn't like drinking or going out but she would often join us for pres and play games etc and just not drink and then not go out!

I would also say to ask your course friends to do things too. I found that I would do things with my course friends that weren't really related to drinking as we would go out for a coffee or food after uni or go to the library together which was really fun!

Also joining societies is great for this. It gives you time to meet people and socialise and you don't have to go to the drinking socials! Or some societies don't have drinking socials and they meet in town or a cafe which is fun too!

Try not to worry and I hope some of this helps,

Lucy -SHU student ambassador.
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.

Hi @jayks,
Similarly to you, I was also not a big partier when I started university. Going out and drinking might be the first thing people think about when it comes to student life, but in reality, partying often ends after freshers period. You will probably find that more fellow students have similar mindset to yours :smile:

Just like other replies state, joining a society or a sport team is a great way to meet people with similar interests. Additionally, I can tell you that creating your own society also helps find your people, as well as connects you to others within student union.

If you are staying in a student hall, try organising something with fellow flatmates, game or movie nights are good ice-breakers and can lead to discovering a common interest. Since being introverted is not a problem, maybe try reaching out to neighbours on the same floor, you never know if the best mate for life is just behind that door.

Finally, Leeds is a great city for social life. It can offer so much in terms of spending your free time, that is more than just drinking. Look out for events going on, organised by either the city, local institutions or uni itself. Try participating in any that will interest you.
I hope this will help you and best luck with University!!!

Zuza - Bradford Student Rep
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.

Hi!
I am exactly the same, and had the same worry when starting university. You will definitely find your people, in my experience there are more people than expected who don't love going clubbing or drinking.

Hope this helps!
Faye
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.

Hello, I personally don't think you will have much of an issue with this! I was a big partier in first year but now I've mellowed out, most of my good friends are people I met outside of going out from my course, accommodation, societies and work. As long as you put yourself out there and make an effort, people will generally do the same especially as a lot of people are in the same boat of not knowing anyone.
Good luck!
-Kat (2nd year psychology undergraduate at Lancaster University)
babes it's leeds beckett you don't gotta worry about partying xx just cosy on up and let the years flow by!
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.

Hey @jayks!

I was in the exact same position as you when I started university nearly two years ago - I'm not necessarily an introvert, but I'm also not a big partier or drinker, and I wasn't sure if I'd be able to easily make friends.

What I would recommend is talking to as many of your coursemates and flatmates as you possibly can in your first few weeks. Coursemates are always a great start: you already share an interest purely through choosing the same course, and most courses will have ice-breaker events to introduce students to one another in the first few days. Make sure to also have a look at potential societies you'd like to join - whether you want to pick up a new interest/hobby or continue one you already have, societies are a great way to meet people across the university and make friends outside your own circle.

What activties do you currently do with your friends i.e. going out to watch a movie, grabbing a coffee, etc? You'll make friends at university who'll want do similar, so don't worry about being confined to just partying/drinking.

Eve (Kingston Rep).
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.

Hi @jayks

Don't worry about not liking to party. There are many other ways to find your crowd.
Firstly, look to your course mates. They will be one of the first people you meet at uni and you will also be seeing them the majority of that time.
Then, depending on your accommodation you might meet some people in your halls or flat. And finally, you will always have an option to join societies or clubs which are started by like minded students wanting to connect.

Best luck,
Milena
MA Creative and Critical Writing at Uni of Suffolk
Original post by jayks
I'm going to leeds beckett in september and I'm not a big partier or drinker and I'm wondering if I'll still make friends and find my crowd. I'm not introverted at all, I just don't derive a lot of fun from going out drinking.
Hi @jayks,

Please don't worry as you won't be the only one who thinks this before starting university. Be assured that there are so many ways to make friends and meet your people at university and lots of them don't have to involve going out partying and drinking.

I'm not a huge drinker either so can relate and share with you that it didn't have any impact on me having a great social life at university. I met many of my uni friends through my accommodation and part time job, and we would meet up regularly either for a coffee or to go bowling/cinema. As you are going to a university based in the city, there will be plenty of events for you to get involved with that don't necessarily involve drinking. Like others have said, have a look at what clubs or societies your university offers to see if any interest you. This is a brilliant way for you to meet likeminded people outside your course and many societies run events throughout the year that don't involve drinking.

I hope this helps and all the best with starting uni in September 😊
Sarah

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