Not dating anyone of a certain race: preference or persecution?

Everyone is racist because we have natural inbuilt preferences which we then use to discriminate with in order to choose the best mate from your in group ethnicity. It is just natural that every race largely speaking is more attracted to the opposite sex of the same ethnicity. Even putting ethnicity aside people are attracted to people who look similar to them in regard to facial features and hair colour.

In the cases where people say “i’m not racist, but I would never be with an X person” is this acceptable? Or is it racism? Do you feel pressure from family to date within your own race? (These are not my views on dating, but a conversation i’m interested in having as I’ve heard of this happening in a lot of different families.)

No lol but 'I don't date women because they're all b*tchy' is. Not dating them because you're attracted to men is simply preference.

Nah, it's nonsense. The same rationale is not acceptable for every other form of race relations. It would be racist in the extreme to say that you do not permit people from the sub-continent in your premises because you don't like the smell of curry, or you find the way they talk to be irritating.

Yeah because the curry and talking thing is an assumption/stereo type. What about my comment was nonsense? Do you disagree with disliking a physical feature? (Which isn’t my opinion at all by the way, and i’m not trying to fight, just understand)

By that logic, wouldn’t “I only date males because I have a preference” be sexist?

But how is “I don’t want to date that person because she’s a girl” different to “I don’t want to date that person because she’s Chinese”

I've seen that guys posts before and it's mostly just trolling far-right nonsense tbh

Oh okay good because that made 0 sense to me 😂

Yeah because the curry and talking thing is an assumption/stereo type. What about my comment was nonsense? Do you disagree with disliking a physical feature? (Which isn’t my opinion at all by the way, and i’m not trying to fight, just understand)

Well you are not explaining anything, you are simply using human natural as an escape of everything you cannot explain.



To put it simply here, it is our social environment(culture, social custom) affect us to establish a standard of what is right or wrong. Because we realize if we do not follow the unwritten rules of our surrounding social environment(social contract), we will be published by people around us(bullying, degrade and denounce by the others). Thus, if the local environment disgrace certain races. A person who belongs to the dominant race will find it hard to date that particular race; a person who belongs to the minority race will find it hard to date the dominant race.

Aesthetic philosophy, Media study, and gender studies may tell you it is the mass media affect our moral sense and standard of beauty. But I would say our surrounding enthronement should provide a larger effect on our mindset, unless one does not socialize at all and completely rely mass media as the only source of information.

Another interesting question is that why are we affected by local culture so much. Psychologically, human needs to fulfill certain task when we grow up. For example during our teenage life, we tend to endeavour to find like-minded people as friends, because we want to find our social role and self identity in our social circle. Another important point is that, love and security is essential needs to establish self-esteem, this is why we try to follow the majority so as to be accepted by the other, and feel the love and security from the others.

And most importantly, to answer your question, our social environment teaches us the standard of love and dating.

Males generally are under less pressure from families to date within their race, parents seem to object more when their daughters date interracially.

This has to do with power and the suppression of women in a patriarchal society, and also a form of racism, both of which are unacceptable. The rationale is that it is OK for 'us' to take 'their' women, but not if 'they' take 'ours'.