Not dating anyone of a certain race: preference or persecution?

No because that’s sexuality, not really a preference. If it was “I only date males because women are annoying and ugly” it’d be sexist, because of the assumption on women rather than interest in men.

I don't think you understood what I meant:

If a woman was to say she doesn't like women because she is physically attracted to men then that is not sexist, if she was to say she doesn't like women because all women are b*itchy then that is sexist.

In a similar way, if someone was to say they are not attracted to east asian people because they commonly have monolid eyes and that is not something they are physically attracted to, that is not racist. If they said it was because all east asians are 'whiny and annoying' then that is racist.

In the end lol it depends.

In the cases where people say “i’m not racist, but I would never be with an X person” is this acceptable? Or is it racism? Do you feel pressure from family to date within your own race?

(These are not my views on dating, but a conversation i’m interested in having as I’ve heard of this happening in a lot of different families.)

It's not called racism, it's called personal preference. I'm sure you can understand that any rational person would not like to date a middle-eastern because of the weak genes they possess, as a consequence of their tendency to interbreed.

Now this IS fu*king racism"! Why are people here allowed to get away with such drivel?

Please cite your evidence that people from the middle-east are genetically deficient compared with the rest of the human population, otherwise you are just a racist idiot.

Nothing racist about having a preference at all

I wouldn't say it's racist, but I think most of our attractions have reasoning behind them we don't think about. I personally prefer chubbier girls, and I know probably deep down that's because I'm chubby too! Maybe the same applies for skin tone for people? Or maybe socialisation. I don't think it's racist unless it's on purpose but I do think it's worth thinking about why your attraction to certain races is there

Cool. How about if you prefer to only have white friends, or prefer to only have white people work for you?

Here we go my friend! Evidence fresh from New York Times, a liberal newspaper!
http://www.nytimes.com/2003/05/01/world/saudi-arabia-awakes-to-the-perils-of-inbreeding.html

If that doesn't quench your thirst, how about a wikipedia article!
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cousin_marriage_in_the_Middle_East

Muslims INTERBREED and they love it.

You can't force anyone to date anyone, guilt-tripping someone because of race is wrong but I don't see it working on anyone. If someone doesn't want to do date someone because of their race they should have the courtesy to not explicitly say that is the reason why.

Race comes with culture and culture comes with baggage. A lot of interracial marriages don't endure but that doesn't mean they never do. We know the extent to which marriage in general has become bad for longevity in the West.

Race is not necessarily cultural, there is a difference between the two.

I suppose choosing only not be friends with somebody because they aren't white is racist. Same if a black person excluded a white person just because of skin colour.

I think a lot of people make friends based on what is culturally similar to them hence why Asians prefer to make friends with asians and Whites prefer to with whites and there is some level of mixing as well so I don't think that is racist.

I think the preference of having only a certain colour work for you is racist as you should really judge somebody on their ability to do the job not on their ethnicity. It would be unfair if an employer only choose somebody just because of their race and not their potential to do the job.

Cool. How about if you prefer to only have white friends, or prefer to only have white people work for you?

How about you only have friends with ginger hair, a fat arse and who like to be called naughty names when tied up?

People tend to be more selective and individual when it comes to sexual attraction versus choosing who they're going to the pub with.

I'm not saying any of this isn't true. Being more selective doesn't make it less discriminatory. It makes it moreso.

My point is that I think that most people know it's racism, but rather than excuse it - like to redefine it instead.

Having dating preferences is acceptable. I am an Oriental guy who only likes white girls. However I know that most white girls never go for Oriental guys. Neither is racist.