I'm F(22), he's M(25).
Previously I was open to the idea of a 3sum and was super keen.
However, I was sexually assaulted in my sleep by a male friend I trusted and since then my head hasn't been the same-- my bf is well aware this happened because I contacted him when it did.
As a result of this I'm struggling to trust my bf-- he made me re download my tinder and he re-downloaded his, hoping to find another person to join us.
I just can't fathom the thought of a 3 sum right now. I was so open to it before and now I'm second guessing everything.
Does him wanting another person mean he's not really into me?
Is it just an excuse to f**k another girl?
Why does he want to see a guy f**k me?
What if he wants more after that or he isn't satisfied with it just being us?
What if he sees this person outside of it having just been us 3?
What if I see him enjoying it more with the other girl?
If it's a bad experience, I'll just want to break up with him-- does he even care about that if he's forcing it down my throat?
My bf now rarely texts me and if he does it's usually something sexually driven; e.g didn't text me all day and then said, 'oh I want to ask you something.. I'll ask you tomorrow when I see you', when I asked what it was-- turns out he wants to go to a bar and find couples.
I just feel like I can't trust him anymore and it's pushing me away.
Have you or anyone had experiences with 3sums before? What was it like?
Am I being paranoid?
Any suggestions on how to work on myself?