Hiya so basically I’ve been going through an extremely difficult time. Basically my boyfriend just before summer broke up, blocked me on all social media after a violent outburst (not at me but things around me like destroying stuff) he went to a festival previously and did a whole load of drugs that have obviously messed his head up. I was driven to tears and his mum took me home and told me she’s going to seek help for him.
I was reassured as his mum told me she’ll get him to talk to me soon and take him to the gp. Later on that week I find out I’m pregnant.. and I text him and no response. I was obviously destroyed and heartbroken but understand he was going through an extremely bad time in his life and couldn’t be there for me but it still doesn’t justify anything as it was self inflicted. His mum took me to the abortion clinic and was so lovely. She has been in contact with me ever since.
Two months go past and I hear nothing I’m absolutely insane. I go to his house and he lets me in and we sit and talk. About everything and he was explaining how he couldn’t be there for me etc. The drugs and his life have all turned upside down. He opened up to me automatically answers his mums been trying to search for he told me in the space of two hours. We were play fighting on the sofa we were laying down together and it felt so right. We were laughing, playing with his dog. Then I confessed my feelings for him saying I still love him.
As I have a cancerous tumour on top of all of this he cried his eyes out saying he can’t. He doesn’t want to be with me. He says I need to get better. Being fully aware he never EVER cries. I don’t know if that meant he loves me still? He cares about me? Or is it just guilt? As we were playing and laughing? I left his house devastated. I explained to him he’s not a bad person he was going through and still is going through a really bad time.
We’ve been together for over a year, and we have actually brought so much joy laughter and happiness to each other’s lives and he even admitted that himself. Me being in my position I don’t want to manipulate him with it but I want to take every moment I get now because I don’t know where I would be. (Didn’t say that to him). We hugged me and kissed me on the forehead and we said bye and we were both crying.
I love him to pieces I want him back? We make each other so happy. He is going through a lot of problems. And people say I need to focus on myself which is 100% true but I love him with all my heart and I can’t let him fall. He said he can’t when I said I want you😩 someone help me I love him so much and leaving him completely isn’t an option xx I’m sorry for the long message I’m just so vulnerable right now