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Boyfriend is being rubbish with contact again already. I spoke to him only two weeks ago about how 2 short texts a day can't sustain a relationship. Tbh, maybe it is enough and I'm just being a nag. Either way, this amount of contact just doesn't work for me, especially when I'm having a rough time. I just can't cope feeling so alone.

I think I'm just being too demanding though.

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ct2k7

Original post by FuzzySheep

Boyfriend is being rubbish with contact again already. I spoke to him only two weeks ago about how 2 short texts a day can't sustain a relationship. Tbh, maybe it is enough and I'm just being a nag. Either way, this amount of contact just doesn't work for me, especially when I'm having a rough time. I just can't cope feeling so alone.

I think I'm just being too demanding though.

I know that feeling. I'm having a really crappy time, and I haven't actually hear my girlfriend's voice in over 4 months, possibly even 5. Our communication is terrible, it's worse than yours in fact.

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Original post by ct2k7

I know that feeling. I'm having a really crappy time, and I haven't actually hear my girlfriend's voice in over 4 months, possibly even 5. Our communication is terrible, it's worse than yours in fact.

That must be so hard :hugs:

How far is the distance? Have you spoken to her about this? :hugs:

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ct2k7

Original post by FuzzySheep

That must be so hard :hugs:

How far is the distance? Have you spoken to her about this? :hugs:

It is hard - my parents have only recently found out about us, and not in the way I intended.

The distance is about 4 hours by train. She lives in the West Midlands, and I live on the South Coast. She herself is going through a tumultuous time in her life and the one thing I want to do is just hold her, but I feel powerless and it's tearing me up inside me.

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Anonymous #428

Original post by ct2k7

It is hard - my parents have only recently found out about us, and not in the way I intended.

The distance is about 4 hours by train. She lives in the West Midlands, and I live on the South Coast. She herself is going through a tumultuous time in her life and the one thing I want to do is just hold her, but I feel powerless and it's tearing me up inside me.

Why is it a problem that they found out about you? :hugs:

That must be so horrible, I'm really sorry it's like that. :frown:

Do you have a time planned for you next to see each other, or talk to each other on the phone, or maybe Skype if you have webcams? If she's going through a hard time, then it seems having you to talk to about things would be really beneficial for you both.

Maybe if you both work towards a certain time or date where you can spend time together physically, or just a long phone call, that might be something for you to look forward to. I think it's important that you both do communicate more though, and as long as you're both a couple, it's something you'll both want :hugs:

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Original post by ct2k7

It is hard - my parents have only recently found out about us, and not in the way I intended.

The distance is about 4 hours by train. She lives in the West Midlands, and I live on the South Coast. She herself is going through a tumultuous time in her life and the one thing I want to do is just hold her, but I feel powerless and it's tearing me up inside me.

Oops, I came up as anonymous, but it is me.

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ct2k7

Original post by FuzzySheep

Oops, I came up as anonymous, but it is me.

hehe, I didn't even notice :eek:

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Original post by ct2k7

hehe, I didn't even notice :eek:

Well if you ever need a chat or a vent or whatever, feel free to PM me :hugs:

Things will get better :hugs:

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met my boyfriend at uni but he lives about 6 hours away from me in Manchester. However, he's been in Poland for the last 7 weeks doing a language course and I haven't seen him for 8 weeks. Finally seeing him on Sunday, so excited!

Also, he studies modern languages so will have his year abroad this time next year. Don't even want to think about that yet! :s

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conniebee

Original post by Salliana23

Also, he studies modern languages so will have his year abroad this time next year. Don't even want to think about that yet! :s

I've got this problem with my boyfriend. He's studying Television and Broadcasting, but has chosen to a year in industry. That means as I finish next year, he'll be going out to industry and then go back for a further year when I'm done completely (unless I stick it out for masters). I am terrified he's gonna end up being abroad and I won't see him :frown:

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liamb109