OK, so I would be soo happy if someone could read through this essay and help me to make some sense of my feelings..
I've been with my boyfriend for 8 months and have been long distance for approximately 6 of these months (I'm abroad for University and will be back for good in July, we were only together for 2 weeks before I left). i've found that I go through phases when I'm away where I start to get annoyed with skyping him for so long every day (we usually skype for at least an hour and a half, sometimes 3 or 4 hours) and the things he says start to annoy me. When I'm at home or he visits I'm usually fine and really love him, we get on unbelievably well and have so much to talk about that we never stop, he's my best friend and I can't imagine being without him.
When we're apart, though, I equally want to talk to him but then get annoyed at little things that he does, and worry that if I say that I don't want to Skype one night he'll be upset or hurt. Also, if I don't skype him then I really miss him, which puts me in a dilemma.
The things that annoy me about him and are making me feel bad at the moment are that:
a) my parents don't like him, they think he's obnoxious and lazy as he goes to a worse university than me and hates his course so doesn't do much work, and also misses a lot of lectures to see me when I'm in England. this puts me in a bad position because they start to turn me against him and think that maybe they're right. his parents know that mine have a problem with him and so i feel that they're sort of looking down on my family in a way.
b) he's a complete mummy's boy and talks about about his mum in front of other people. I make this sound weird, he doesn't say about it the whole time, but he mentions her cooking and how brilliant she is when we're having a conversation with friends and it embarrasses me a bit.
c) he's complaining that he's got no money at the moment but the reason for this is that he spends UNBELIEVABLE amounts of money on me. I ask and beg him not to but he has spent thousands on me in the past few months, my birthday present cost him £400 and i just think that it's all too much and so do my parents. he's been very extravagant with money and now he's irritable and moody recently because he hasn't got much left. i sound so spoilt and i do appreciate what he buys me but i wish he never had bought the stuff to begin with because it makes me feel guilty of taking this money off him and sort of like i'm indebted to him.
d) i also worry what he's going to do in life; he has spoken about being together very far ahead (e.g. married, kids) and is so happy when i say that i want the same, which sometimes i imagine myself doing. but i'm worried that (this is because of my parents' opinions, i know) he's not going to get a good job when he finishes uni and won't work hard, and that i'll be the breadwinner, which i don't want.
e) he also says that he will never find anyone who he loves as much as me, i am the one for him, he will never break up with me and if i broke up with him he is sure that he would never find anyone else. he says that he would have no reason to live if i left him, essentially. this worries me as it makes me feel a bit trapped, like if i ever did really want to get out of the relationship i couldnt.
Basically, i just want someone to help me make sense of what I'm feeling here; are all these problems just bugging me because I'm away? when I see him it all pales into insignificance and I'm so happy, he makes me happier than I've ever been before but I go through phases of loving him and being annoyed with him. Is this normal? If I'm being a bitch with all of this please let me know.