Trying for a baby

Me and my girlfriend have been discussing trying for a baby for about 12 months now and at the start of this year we agreed that we would start trying at the end of this year as we had no plans on the horizon and more importantly we’re not getting any younger.

However, a few weeks ago my parents mentioned taking us, my sisters and their partners and my nephew to Florida next year on a big family holiday. This now has thrown a bit of a spanner into the works as we don’t want to delay trying for a baby as we’re both in our late 20’s but also if we don’t go to Florida we’ll have to tell people the reason why.

I have said we’re just going to have to be honest but maybe just tell our parents for the time being why we don’t want to go on this big family holiday.

If anyone has any help or advice it would be appreciated.

When is the holiday being planned for and when do you think it will be booked?

It’s being planned for next Easter and they’re thinking of booking it late Summer time. If mine and my girlfriends plans happen as we hope she may be 5/6 months pregnant by the time the holiday comes around.

5/6 months pregnant is a popular time to go on holiday during pregnancy so is there a reason why you wouldn't want to go on holiday then? Of course you don't want to go on holiday closer to labour but it sounds like that won't happen if you start trying at the end of the year?

The issue is we don't think Florida would be an enjoyable holiday whilst she is pregnant when there is A LOT of walking every day involved and on top of that she wouldn't be able to go on all the rides, so we feel like it would take away from the main reason the holiday is being planned. We have talked about it and said if it was just a beach holiday we'd be up for it but it's the fact it's a holiday to Florida that we don't really want to do whilst pregnant.

In the event that she is pregnant by then you and your partner could find something else to do besides go to theme parks. There is a lot more to Florida than that! I'm sure your family would understand if she were to become pregnant between now and then that alternative plans would be made.

Also factor in that it may not happen right away. You could end up skipping a holiday and she not be pregnant at all.

Trying for a baby doesn't always happen like clockwork. It took 8 months of trying before we conceived our second son (the only one of our 4 kids that was actually actively planned).