My parents strict rules!

F16, here’s a list of my parents strict rules I need to vent about.

I’m never allowed to close my bedroom door, not even to change. If I am caught in my room with the door closed it will be removed from its hinges.

I have screentime on my phone, I get three hours a day, and my phone automatically locks at 9:00 every night.

My phone is tracked at all times and checked frequently.

I am not allowed to hangout with my friends outside of school.

I am not allowed to change my phone password, my parents must know it.

I’m not allowed to date.

I’m not allowed to have any social media. Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, I’m not allowed to have any of it. I was just allowed to have YouTube around 3 years ago.

I am allowed to dye my hair, BUT my dad must approve of the color, I am no longer allowed to dye my hair magenta because he grew tired of the color.

My father also forbade me from being friends with anyone that is not heterosexual, although I am a closeted pansexual.

These are just a few.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

Original post by Anonymous

F16, here’s a list of my parents strict rules I need to vent about.

I’m never allowed to close my bedroom door, not even to change. If I am caught in my room with the door closed it will be removed from its hinges.

I have screentime on my phone, I get three hours a day, and my phone automatically locks at 9:00 every night.

My phone is tracked at all times and checked frequently.

I am not allowed to hangout with my friends outside of school.

I am not allowed to change my phone password, my parents must know it.

I’m not allowed to date.

I’m not allowed to have any social media. Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, I’m not allowed to have any of it. I was just allowed to have YouTube around 3 years ago.

I am allowed to dye my hair, BUT my dad must approve of the color, I am no longer allowed to dye my hair magenta because he grew tired of the color.

My father also forbade me from being friends with anyone that is not heterosexual, although I am a closeted pansexual.

These are just a few.

Talk to your school.

Or get out.

Reply 2

jporter896

14

Original post by Anonymous

F16, here’s a list of my parents strict rules I need to vent about.

I’m never allowed to close my bedroom door, not even to change. If I am caught in my room with the door closed it will be removed from its hinges.

I have screentime on my phone, I get three hours a day, and my phone automatically locks at 9:00 every night.

My phone is tracked at all times and checked frequently.

I am not allowed to hangout with my friends outside of school.

I am not allowed to change my phone password, my parents must know it.

I’m not allowed to date.

I’m not allowed to have any social media. Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, I’m not allowed to have any of it. I was just allowed to have YouTube around 3 years ago.

I am allowed to dye my hair, BUT my dad must approve of the color, I am no longer allowed to dye my hair magenta because he grew tired of the color.

My father also forbade me from being friends with anyone that is not heterosexual, although I am a closeted pansexual.

These are just a few.

Jesus. I thought my foster care are really scrict your your is more scricter. My advice is that you would need to sit with them and talk how you feel about your home enviroment. If its not working out then you can contact your social worker if you have one or school social worker that you want to move out to foster care if that something that you want. But listen, You're 16 nearly 18. Things will be completely different when you turn 18 because your parent would have to treat you like a adult. Hope everything okay over there x.

-Jeffrey

Reply 3

Dunnig Kruger

16

Shut your door. Call their bluff on the removal from hinges.
Invite social services into your home and allow your parents to explain why your bedroom door has been removed.

Try to make a (secret) recording of any physical violence or abuse towards you, such as denying you supper.

Tell your parents that you're pansexual. Try to record the conversation.

Tell your parents that you're going to socialise with some friends after school. Record the conversation.

The no social media is no big deal. You're not missing out on anything important. Likewise the hair dye.
The no dating is something that you can grin and bear until you're at uni or working and living in your own place.

When you are a parent yourself, don't treat your parents as a role model, and also don't go too far the other way by over-indulging and spoiling your children.

Present the full picture of your home life to social services and allow them to make the decision as to whether they should provide you with your own small place in which you can live whilst doing A levels. You might also want to look at where in the country has the best state funded 6th form college and move there and get the council to house you, so you're not living in the streets.

Look to gain practical skills in preparation for you moving out. Such as budgeting, food shopping, cooking, cleaning.

Reply 4

brickwallgoesbrr

7

Wtf bro I thought my home situation was bad because we're fitting like 4 people into a 2 bedroom house so i dont get my own privacy and just in general my secondary school friends had much more freedom. Those rules are strict indeed... My only strat there would be opening up to them about how quite frankly, impossible it feels to make friends under these conditions and 'i cant even have a childhood before becoming a miserable adult'. Plus ur 16 now, they're supposed to allow a bit more independence because you aren't really a kid and ur a person with their own individual thoughts & opinions now, like... thats a grown ass human being

Reply 5

lalexm

16

Original post by Anonymous

F16, here’s a list of my parents strict rules I need to vent about.

I’m never allowed to close my bedroom door, not even to change. If I am caught in my room with the door closed it will be removed from its hinges.

I have screentime on my phone, I get three hours a day, and my phone automatically locks at 9:00 every night.

My phone is tracked at all times and checked frequently.

I am not allowed to hangout with my friends outside of school.

I am not allowed to change my phone password, my parents must know it.

I’m not allowed to date.

I’m not allowed to have any social media. Snapchat, Instagram, TikTok, Twitter, Facebook, I’m not allowed to have any of it. I was just allowed to have YouTube around 3 years ago.

I am allowed to dye my hair, BUT my dad must approve of the color, I am no longer allowed to dye my hair magenta because he grew tired of the color.

My father also forbade me from being friends with anyone that is not heterosexual, although I am a closeted pansexual.

These are just a few.

As a parent of two girls of similar age, I would say that their behaviour is extremely controlling and totally unacceptable, particularly not being able to close your bedroom door, not being able to socialise with friends outside school, and only be allowed heterosexual friends. They might think they are protecting you, but in reality they are doing you harm.

Talk to them and tell why it is unacceptable, but as others have said, make a diary or what is said and done, and seek help from your school and social services if the situation does not improve. Your school should have a welfare/safeguarding offices who you could talk to for advice.

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