How do I develop my personality?

I know how you feel. It is something im workin on myself. I watch alot of youtube videos on advice i can reccommend some. But i believe the best thing you can do is to do practical things, do the things your uncomfartable with until they become comfortable. Also get rid of that voice in your head filling you with doubt and just be authentic. I know its gonna be hard I still havent reached there yet.

I understand your approach and think it's sensible. Personal growth and improving social interactions are journeys. Watching YouTube videos for advice is smart. Practical experience and being authentic are vital. Overcoming discomfort gradually leads to more comfort. The inner voice of doubt is something to overcome for better connections. Progress takes time, but your efforts matter. Keep going, and you'll make meaningful progress.

Yh thanks man. I'm really working on it and feel i know the right path. But its hard to make progress i feel like i know how to improve but actually doing it in the moment is a different story, i just resort back to my awkward self. At some point i want to be able to approach anyone on the street and start a conversation. Also idk if this is common but when talking in large gathering my voice is like strained i literally cannot raise my voice im like straining to get words out that people can hear. Seeing people with such natural charisma and humour is just painful but i will try get there one day. You seem well educated are you like a pyschologist or just someone who knows about this stuff lol

Hey there, it’s great to hear that you’re actively working on improving yourself and your social skills – that’s a fantastic first step! Don’t worry, many people face similar challenges. It’s completely normal to feel like you know what to do but struggle to implement it in the moment. Remember, progress takes time and practice. While you practice, don’t look back and don’t worry about what others think; concentrate on your practice. Afterwards, you can reflect on how the interaction went.

The desire to approach anyone on the street and start a conversation is a commendable goal, and with consistent effort, you’ll get there. It’s essential to consider that not everyone likes to be approached randomly. Start by approaching people you can relate to and have common ground with.

It’s also common to feel strained when speaking in large gatherings; this strain could be related to anxiety or a lack of confidence. Working on your confidence and communication skills can help ease that tension over time.

As for me, I’m not a psychologist, but I have knowledge about various topics, including personal development and social skills. I’m currently on the path to earning a Master’s in Systemic and Family Therapy. Just out of curiosity, could you specify the type of gathering you’re referring to? Is it in a lecture or presentation setting, a social event or party, a work or networking event, or something else? This would help me provide more tailored advice and insights based on your specific situation.