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Student accommodation with social anxiety

Hi I’m just wondering if anyone could share their experiences in student accommodation at university , whilst having social anxiety.

For more info I’m a mature student (20) so not by much , I’ve moved out of my parents house at 18 because living at home with my family was hell and there was a lot of issues. I have now moved into my own flat recently ( instead of a bedroom) . My mental health is loads better living on my own without family , I love the space I have compared just a bedroom. I’ve struggled massively with friendships in high school& post 16 college. But now that I’ve gone back to college this year I get on really well with everyone on my course, and have made good friends.
I’m considering student accommodation particularly one uni I’ve been to , the atmosphere is amazing and I think I’d feel right at home. But i just wanted to hear people’s experiences (bad and good) because I’m not sure whether it would be a bad decison In the case of I don’t get on with my flat mates, get bullied or stuff like that. Or alternatively I make new friends and feel comfortable around my flat mates, and maybe feel happier because I’ll socialise more.

Also does anyone know if all uni accommodations will allow you to move halls in the case of not getting on with your flat mates? Or is that something I need to individually ask each university.
Original post by Anonymous
Hi I’m just wondering if anyone could share their experiences in student accommodation at university , whilst having social anxiety.

For more info I’m a mature student (20) so not by much , I’ve moved out of my parents house at 18 because living at home with my family was hell and there was a lot of issues. I have now moved into my own flat recently ( instead of a bedroom) . My mental health is loads better living on my own without family , I love the space I have compared just a bedroom. I’ve struggled massively with friendships in high school& post 16 college. But now that I’ve gone back to college this year I get on really well with everyone on my course, and have made good friends.
I’m considering student accommodation particularly one uni I’ve been to , the atmosphere is amazing and I think I’d feel right at home. But i just wanted to hear people’s experiences (bad and good) because I’m not sure whether it would be a bad decison In the case of I don’t get on with my flat mates, get bullied or stuff like that. Or alternatively I make new friends and feel comfortable around my flat mates, and maybe feel happier because I’ll socialise more.

Also does anyone know if all uni accommodations will allow you to move halls in the case of not getting on with your flat mates? Or is that something I need to individually ask each university.

Hi there,

I'm glad to hear you're enjoying college and meeting new people :smile:

Everyones experience of student accommodation is different but there is lots you can do to prepare yourself for a really positive experience! I would suggest visiting lots of open days to get a feel for the uni and the area as well as trying to speak to lots of people that have experienced uni accommodation.

Rest assured that if you make the wrong decision, or find yourself struggling with the accommodation you are in, you will be able access the appropriate support. It's worth speaking to the universities you are considering to find out about the specific support they have available for students to put your mind at ease.

I'm sure you will have a great time!
Georgia
Hello,

It's amazing that you seem to be settling into College better.

I agree with the above post, definitely go around to different Universities and see which one you feel most comfortable in - for me, I knew as soon as I stepped into Lancaster that I would fit right in. If you come along to one of our open days, or sometimes you can request private visits, they will let you into some university halls and you can get a feel for it. At Lancaster, there are lots of different types of accommodation - from basic standard all the way to superior ensuite - there will definitely be accommodation that will suit your needs. In my first year, I had to move into a different flat, and this was facilitated by our lovely college managers - staff always work with you to find a solution that works best for you :smile:

Hope this helps,
Tyler (Student Ambassador for Lancaster University)
Original post by Anonymous
Hi I’m just wondering if anyone could share their experiences in student accommodation at university , whilst having social anxiety.

For more info I’m a mature student (20) so not by much , I’ve moved out of my parents house at 18 because living at home with my family was hell and there was a lot of issues. I have now moved into my own flat recently ( instead of a bedroom) . My mental health is loads better living on my own without family , I love the space I have compared just a bedroom. I’ve struggled massively with friendships in high school& post 16 college. But now that I’ve gone back to college this year I get on really well with everyone on my course, and have made good friends.
I’m considering student accommodation particularly one uni I’ve been to , the atmosphere is amazing and I think I’d feel right at home. But i just wanted to hear people’s experiences (bad and good) because I’m not sure whether it would be a bad decison In the case of I don’t get on with my flat mates, get bullied or stuff like that. Or alternatively I make new friends and feel comfortable around my flat mates, and maybe feel happier because I’ll socialise more.

Also does anyone know if all uni accommodations will allow you to move halls in the case of not getting on with your flat mates? Or is that something I need to individually ask each university.


Living in student accommodation can be both challenging and rewarding for someone with social anxiety. Experiences vary greatly, so it's crucial to research each university's policies. Many universities do allow room changes if conflicts arise, but it's best to confirm this individually with the specific universities you're interested in. Hearing from current or past students about their experiences in the accommodation you're considering can also provide valuable insights.

Best of luck!
Fatima
Student Ambassador- London South Bank University

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