Bf told me he only slept and took my virginity from me as a bet

Yes, the advice is to dump his arse straight away.

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Dunnig Kruger

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm currently crying as my bf finally got in touch with me after ghosting me after sex, he said he only did it for a bet with his mates, does anyone have any advice?

Is this the guy that carried on after you told him to stop?

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Cote1

If this is a genuine post and I am not saying it's not, what a complete and utter moron. I hope you have nothing to do with him from this point onwards. He is a *******.

(edited 6 months ago)

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Surnia

So how long were you dating and how long have you officially been boyfriend and girlfriend? Just trying to work out what pretence he's kept up of being interested in you. Maybe his response was just a get-out because he couldn't think of anything else other than being brutal.

Whatever. If genuine, dump him.

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OP

Original post by greg tony

What did he do as a bet, have sex with you, ghost your, or be your boyfriend? If it is just the former it makes no sense.

Greg

He had sex with me as a bet

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Original post by Sorcerer of Old

Yes, the advice is to dump his arse straight away.

She already lost.

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Original post by Anonymous

I'm currently crying as my bf finally got in touch with me after ghosting me after sex, he said he only did it for a bet with his mates, does anyone have any advice?

The game is the game.

Some young men are ruthless. You have to accept that you lost this one and move on. No point dwelling in misery, you can not undo your virginity. Good luck

Reply 9

OP

Original post by Anonymous

I just went to get my partner from uni because she finished for the day, and no I shouldn’t have I put it sensitively to ground to show my frustration

Hope she dumps a control freak like you, your not a nice guy

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OP

Original post by Wired_1800

The game is the game.

Some young men are ruthless. You have to accept that you lost this one and move on. No point dwelling in misery, you can not undo your virginity. Good luck

Thanks I guess

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Ackhnologia

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Original post by Wired_1800

The game is the game.

Some young men are ruthless. You have to accept that you lost this one and move on. No point dwelling in misery, you can not undo your virginity. Good luck

In fact
Unfortunately people love to use people and do not care about nothing but their own interests.

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Original post by Ackhnologia

In fact
Unfortunately people love to use people and do not care about nothing but their own interests.

That’s true. I think it is due to a lack of accountability,

Reply 13

brickwallgoesbrr

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thats horrible and im sorry that happened to you. fking men sometimes. please take care of urself, if u have a trusted friend u should talk to them abt it.

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OP

Original post by brickwallgoesbrr

thats horrible and im sorry that happened to you. fking men sometimes. please take care of urself, if u have a trusted friend u should talk to them abt it.

Think I am realising just how bad the vast majority of men are

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Surnia

Original post by Anonymous

Think I am realising just how bad the vast majority of men are

Actually, the majority are good guys.

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Original post by Anonymous

Think I am realising just how bad the vast majority of men are

The vast majority of men are not bad, just like the vast majority of women are not bad. The problem we have is that we experience few people and seek to generalise those poor behaviours as being representative of men.

There are threads on this forum where young men also complain about women and use poor words to judge most women. I doubt you would accept that you would be in that group.

What you have to do, if I may add, is to accept your reality and move on. Don't dwell on a poor experience and don't allow it to define you. Else, you would carry a burden for many years and pre-judge others when they have nothing to do with that experience.

Good luck

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helpiana

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hey baby ;( im so sorry you had to go through that, youre worth way more than that. Ive looked through the replies to this and idk why the men in the comments are acting as if "you lost a game". Love isn't a game these men are just vile and immature. I think the best thing for you to do is to heal and move on. its going to be difficult as you probably created memories tg and you were vulnerable around him, but you need to make a conscious decision to put yourself first. You can do this by firstly feeling youre emotions and accepting them. Spend time with yourself, rediscover yourself and who you truly are. Do you things that you like eg exploring new places, distract yourself in healthy ways. You didnt need him before you met him nor will you need him after. Remember that throughout your life the only person who will stay with you is YOU. so you should wokr towards your goal and fulfil your heart always. I hope you feel better soon and that you have supportive people around you. wish you the best <3

Original post by Anonymous

I'm currently crying as my bf finally got in touch with me after ghosting me after sex, he said he only did it for a bet with his mates, does anyone have any advice?

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