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I didn't go out much at freshers and have regretted it ever since. I don't have any friends on my course and don't talk to my flatmates. Any advice on making friends 3 months in to uni?
Original post by random-generated
I didn't go out much at freshers and have regretted it ever since. I don't have any friends on my course and don't talk to my flatmates. Any advice on making friends 3 months in to uni?

Hi there!

I am sorry to hear that you are struggling to socialise and make friends at university - it is definitely a universal experience and you are not alone in that regard.

Other than joining societies and group chats on social media platforms for your university, I would recommend that next time you are in any form of group work in seminars or tutorials, try and spark up a generic conversation with your course mates about what you are working on/discussing etc. This could be a way of opening up another conversation outside of academia! From there, if it goes well, you could suggest meeting up for coffee or at the library to do some work; just something to fill the void whilst you are feeling lonely. You never know, it could go well!

I hope this helps :smile:

Estelle
Graduate Advocate
Reply 2
The truth is that, although it is preferable to have friends, you need to get used to being alone. You are most likely feeling lonely not because you are a valuable person with something to offer, but it's most likely the fear of independence and agency that's driving you to seek contact with other people.
Original post by random-generated
I didn't go out much at freshers and have regretted it ever since. I don't have any friends on my course and don't talk to my flatmates. Any advice on making friends 3 months in to uni?

Hi there

I'm sorry to hear that you have not been able to make friends at University yet. However, you are not alone in your situation, many people I know and myself did not make friends until the end of first year or at second year, and I am certain there are other first years still looking for friends.

I understand that it can be more difficult to make friends as an introvert, here are some things that helped me :smile:

Freshers is not the only opportunity to make friends, instead, rather there are chances to make friends throughout your degree.

Join societies, try new activities or continue with your interests- this will help you meet people with similar hobbies or personalities.

Whilst it can be challenging and intimidating, try speaking to some peers at your lessons (espsecially after Christmas break- a new term begins and some of the modules you study will be new- so you can meet different people!)

It is perfectly normal not to speak with your flatmates, but if you would like to, definitely give it a try~ just start off with small talk.

Keep an eye out on your student union's and University's social page- they often host a lot of events that are free to attend- it is a good way to meet new people.

Hope this helps. Good luck :smile:
Chloe
University of Kent Student Rep
Original post by random-generated
I didn't go out much at freshers and have regretted it ever since. I don't have any friends on my course and don't talk to my flatmates. Any advice on making friends 3 months in to uni?

Hi there,

I'm sorry to hear that you're struggling to make friends. This is a really common experience, so don't be disheartened!

Going out at Freshers doesn't guarantee meaningful friendships, but there are lots of other ways you can connect with people. For example, look into joining a sport or society that interests you (many of them may hold 'refresher' sessions in the New Year); volunteering; part-time work; and other events in the city/on campus.

It can be hard to pluck up the courage to talk to people on your course three months into university, but there is always a chance. Ask them about the course content or homework; compliment them on their outfit, hair, make-up, accessories, etc; follow them on social media; ask them to grab coffee or study together; and even just say 'hi'. The same goes for your flatmates. It's likely going to be uncomfortable and hard, but putting yourself out there is how you'll make meaningful connections that'll last.

I hope this helps, and best of luck!

Isabella
Third-year Geography with a Year Abroad BA (Hons) Student
Reply 5
Original post by random-generated
I didn't go out much at freshers and have regretted it ever since. I don't have any friends on my course and don't talk to my flatmates. Any advice on making friends 3 months in to uni?

Which uni do you attend?
Original post by random-generated
I didn't go out much at freshers and have regretted it ever since. I don't have any friends on my course and don't talk to my flatmates. Any advice on making friends 3 months in to uni?

Hi there!

Try not to worry too much as lots of people will be in the same position!

I would try and join some clubs / societies at uni as these are a great way to make friends with people who have similar interests to you!

Also, you can try just chatting to people as your going in /coming out of lectures - people are so much more welcoming than you might think!

I hope this helps,

Rebecca - UCLan

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