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Uni first year was lonely !

Anyone else feel like first year was trickier to find people they really clicked with and could just relax with? It took me until the end of first year to find people who were really a little bit of me. I did this by attending band society and then found pretty much everyone there was lovely !!! Would recommend finding a society if you are in the same position as me :smile:
Original post by Manchester Met - Student Rep
Anyone else feel like first year was trickier to find people they really clicked with and could just relax with? It took me until the end of first year to find people who were really a little bit of me. I did this by attending band society and then found pretty much everyone there was lovely !!! Would recommend finding a society if you are in the same position as me :smile:

Hi @Manchester Met - Student Rep

I totally feel this!

In first year you kind of have to get to know as many people as possible to then filter down and find your proper friendships. It can definitely be awkward trying to make conversation with new people - but like you said, you will find the right people in good time.

PSA to everyone: join a society! Or at least try a few. Most of my friendships were made through societies, or just by attending the occasional taster session.
Also, you can try volunteering at uni, especially for your course - like open day events. I've found this has helped me meet other students from different year groups who study my course, so I have other people I can go to who have experienced the same things!
Original post by Manchester Met - Student Rep
Anyone else feel like first year was trickier to find people they really clicked with and could just relax with? It took me until the end of first year to find people who were really a little bit of me. I did this by attending band society and then found pretty much everyone there was lovely !!! Would recommend finding a society if you are in the same position as me :smile:

Uni can be lonely, especially ones in cities: I endorse you view of joining a society...or several You're at uni for more than just your course and more than qualification you can obtain: for instance, on top of your degree you can get a black belt.

I also strongly advise people to spend their first year in halls, if they can afford it. It's a great way to build friendships outside of your course.
Original post by Stychomythia
Uni can be lonely, especially ones in cities: I endorse you view of joining a society...or several You're at uni for more than just your course and more than qualification you can obtain: for instance, on top of your degree you can get a black belt.

I also strongly advise people to spend their first year in halls, if they can afford it. It's a great way to build friendships outside of your course.

Hi there
Yes I agree ! Halls is a brilliant way to get stuck in with a load of different people and socialise. However, saying this you can also get stuck with people really unlike you! Amd that’s ok to not like them, you will find people you gel with 🙂
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Original post by Manchester Met - Student Rep
Anyone else feel like first year was trickier to find people they really clicked with and could just relax with? It took me until the end of first year to find people who were really a little bit of me. I did this by attending band society and then found pretty much everyone there was lovely !!! Would recommend finding a society if you are in the same position as me :smile:

Hi,

I completely agree with this! Joining societies is a great way of making friends with people who have similar interests to you. Another great way of making friends is through living in student halls as you really get to know those you are living with by doing simple steps such as making dinner together and socialising in the kitchen.

Making friends in first year can take some time but just try to stick with it and friendships will form naturally! The friends I made in first year are now my best friends so it does get a lot easier!

Mary
London South Bank University Student Rep (3rd-year Children's Nursing)

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