My girlfriend and I are both Christian and have a very happy, healthy relationship. While I feel science strengthens my faith - and evolution or the Earth being 14 billion years old is in no way incompatible with the existence of God - she's a devout Baptist who takes Genesis rather literally. She believes God created Adam and Eve directly and the Earth was made in 6 days around 6000 years ago.
Even though it'd still be a few years away from happening, we've spoken in hypothetical terms about marriage and children since those are both life goals we share. She's said on several occasions that I'd make a great father/marriage partner and as Christians, we're both "dating to marry".
The other week though, I asked her what her criteria was for a life partner - "Did you just want someone who's saved?" She then said she also wants someone who shares the same ideas around, "How the world was made and evolution". This led to a very tearful discussion where I said I didn't want to lose her in the future. She got upset too and said she doesn't want to lose me and hopes we can find a way around it. She said "I'm sure we'll work something out" and was asking if I really think there's no way around it.
I asked her if there's anything else she wants in a life partner that I don't have and she said no - my theistic evolution is the ONLY thing that's a concern. She said it's fine if it's just us but she thinks teaching kids both evolution and creationism could be too confusing for them - maybe she's right ://
Does anyone have experience of differing values like this in Christian relationships? The thing that's giving me hope here is that she's equally as upset at the thought of this not working and really wants to find a way we can compromise.