Anyone else thought uni would be more different
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Original post by Anonymous
To be honest I am a little disappointed. I know people are just one year older than the year before, but I thought things would be a little different.
Now I do business, and most of the people I go to school with went to well recognized schools before they came here (it's an international environment). Yet still, people are extremely noisy in class, the most childish sense of humor ever (boys especially), everybody seems to be excited about going to student parties during weekends, where you dress either S&M/pyjamas/porn star (those are the themes), get as drunk as possible and add pictures on facebook later (pictures of a type which your future employer would hold against you). The girls are clique-y and gossipy, at the level they were at my old school in my home country at 14. They talk about boys and girls being seen together as if we were in high school. There is no chance of dating anyone in private without people knowing, and most people frown upon hanging out with people outside of school. If you don't include yourself in the drunken student evenings, you're not part of it, and being difficult. Anyone else have a similar experience?
Feel like I'm in a bad American high school movie. When do people become adults?
Now I do business, and most of the people I go to school with went to well recognized schools before they came here (it's an international environment). Yet still, people are extremely noisy in class, the most childish sense of humor ever (boys especially), everybody seems to be excited about going to student parties during weekends, where you dress either S&M/pyjamas/porn star (those are the themes), get as drunk as possible and add pictures on facebook later (pictures of a type which your future employer would hold against you). The girls are clique-y and gossipy, at the level they were at my old school in my home country at 14. They talk about boys and girls being seen together as if we were in high school. There is no chance of dating anyone in private without people knowing, and most people frown upon hanging out with people outside of school. If you don't include yourself in the drunken student evenings, you're not part of it, and being difficult. Anyone else have a similar experience?
Feel like I'm in a bad American high school movie. When do people become adults?first year of uni has lower progressing grades (the grade you need to continue the course) so that people can enjoy thier first year of 'freedom' like idiots.
as for the gossipping always happens no matter what the age
and as for the dating in private if you don't want people to know you must be ashamed an as such need to end the relationship as its not going anywhere
Original post by Cicerao
19, not that this is relevant.
Well it is, tbh.
When you're 30 years old, going out with a 19 year old is more immature than puking in a bush tbh...
my brother is 30, and if he was going out with a girl that was younger than me (im 22) i'd be disgusted tbh....I'd also think he was quite pathetic, being a grown ass man and going out with someone who is barely an 'adult'
You'r not even 21, (in some countries that's not even old enough to drink) yet he's old enough to have a family...You were probably with him when you were younger also, which is even more sickening...
So yeah, throwing up after a drink, is definatly not more immature/patheticf than a 30 year old man going out with a child...
Notice how it's never a 30 year old woman going out with a 19 year old boy? LOL
And you're probably immature yourself, because you most likley think that going out with a 30 year old loser, who can't pull a bird his own age, is attractive or gives you status/means you can look down on people your own age...
If a 30 year old, is going out with a 19 year old, i'd dread to think what he was like when he was 19...lol
If i was your dad. the sicko wouldn't be able to walk...but something tells me your daddy doesn't mind....or quite frankly, doesn't care....
And then you find yourself with a 30 year old...can anyone say "daddy issues"?
*puke*
Men like your BF, cannot/find it hard to impress older girls, so he decided to go for theeasy option and date an 18 year old that is impressed with...wait for it...A CAR!!!! OR HIS OWN PLACE!!! OR THE FACT HE MORE MONEY THAN GUYS YOU GO TO UNI WITH!!
seriously, grow the **** up and open your eyes
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Original post by freakingout!
Well it is, tbh.
When you're 30 years old, going out with a 19 year old is more immature than puking in a bush tbh...
my brother is 30, and if he was going out with a girl that was younger than me (im 22) i'd be disgusted tbh....I'd also think he was quite pathetic, being a grown ass man and going out with someone who is barely an 'adult' You'r not even 21, (in some countries that's not even old enough to drink) yet he's old enough to have a family...
You were probably with him when you were younger also, which is even more sickening...
So yeah, throwing up after a drink, is definatly not more immature/patheticf than a 30 year old man going out with a child...
Notice how it's never a 30 year old woman going out with a 19 year old boy? LOL
And you're probably immature yourself, because you most likley think that going out with a 30 year old loser, who can't pull a bird his own age, is attractive or gives you status/means you can look down on people your own age...
If a 30 year old, is going out with a 19 year old, i'd dread to think what he was like when he was 19...lol
If i was your dad. the sicko wouldn't be able to walk...but something tells me your daddy doesn't mind....or quite frankly, doesn't care....
And then you find yourself with a 30 year old...can anyone say "daddy issues"?
*puke*
Men like your BF, cannot/find it hard to impress older girls, so he decided to go for theeasy option and date an 18 year old that is impressed with...wait for it...A CAR!!!! OR HIS OWN PLACE!!! OR THE FACT HE MORE MONEY THAN GUYS YOU GO TO UNI WITH!!
seriously, grow the **** up and open your eyes
When you're 30 years old, going out with a 19 year old is more immature than puking in a bush tbh...
my brother is 30, and if he was going out with a girl that was younger than me (im 22) i'd be disgusted tbh....I'd also think he was quite pathetic, being a grown ass man and going out with someone who is barely an 'adult'
You'r not even 21, (in some countries that's not even old enough to drink) yet he's old enough to have a family...You were probably with him when you were younger also, which is even more sickening...
So yeah, throwing up after a drink, is definatly not more immature/patheticf than a 30 year old man going out with a child...
Notice how it's never a 30 year old woman going out with a 19 year old boy? LOL
And you're probably immature yourself, because you most likley think that going out with a 30 year old loser, who can't pull a bird his own age, is attractive or gives you status/means you can look down on people your own age...
If a 30 year old, is going out with a 19 year old, i'd dread to think what he was like when he was 19...lol
If i was your dad. the sicko wouldn't be able to walk...but something tells me your daddy doesn't mind....or quite frankly, doesn't care....
And then you find yourself with a 30 year old...can anyone say "daddy issues"?
*puke*
Men like your BF, cannot/find it hard to impress older girls, so he decided to go for theeasy option and date an 18 year old that is impressed with...wait for it...A CAR!!!! OR HIS OWN PLACE!!! OR THE FACT HE MORE MONEY THAN GUYS YOU GO TO UNI WITH!!
seriously, grow the **** up and open your eyes
Are you done?
Original post by Cicerao
Are you done?
When did you start goiung out with you bf?
You do realise, that when he was your age, you were 8 years old!
Seriously, that's like saying your future husband might be 8 years old at the moment...
Im also willing to bet he's not exactly fighting girls off, is he?
Has he ever had a relationship with a woman over the age of 25? (seriuously i'd like to know, but i doubt it)
30 and going out with a girl that is most likley younger than his baby sister or brother...
weird....
does he get along with your 19 year old friends?
Be honest, they think he's weird right?
Original post by Cicerao
Are you done?
Well he might have gone a bit and been a tad forceful but he did have a very good point. It is quite pathetic (of your bf and you).
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Well there's nothing wrong with having some fun but you don't have to be SO drunk you puke...that is just pathetic.
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I'm also disappointed by uni, it's the same as school.
Original post by freakingout!
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Original post by gm15
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I find the fact that anyone cares so much as to make a comment about it perplexing. Personally I couldn't give a stuff about your lovelife or probable lack of, but I suppose I'm flattered at the unrequited interest about mine.
Original post by gm15
Well he might have gone a bit and been a tad forceful but he did have a very good point. It is quite pathetic (of your bf and you).
Yeah my bad, I was a bit OTT, lol.
But Im just completley baffled by the fact that she thinks a 19 year old puking in a bush after a night out is more immature/pathetic than a 30 year old man, going out with a girl that is half his age...
19 year old puking in a bush after a night out - normal
(im assume you have been going out for at least a year?) 28-29 year old engaging in a relationship with a girl that is still in school, and still hasn't fully developed as a PERSON...
people don't raise their eyebrows at a hungover 19 year old...
people certainly raise their eyebrows when they see a grown ass man with a teenager!
And I can tell that she *thinks* it makes her more mature, if she goes out with a 30 year old (another sign of immatuirty, this time from her side)
My original post was over the top, but idiots like that don't ever seem to get the message...i've seen thinges like this a few times, and the irnoy of it all, is the fact that the girl sleeping with the 30 year old, is 9 times out of 10, the most immature one in her group of friends who go out with people their own age...
Original post by Cicerao
I find the fact that anyone cares so much as to make a comment about it perplexing. Personally I couldn't give a stuff about your lovelife or probable lack of, but I suppose I'm flattered at the unrequited interest about mine.
Well that is quite defensive isn't it. If you truely thought we were 100% wrong you would of ignored us and let the thread continue. Attacking us and making assumptions about our lives, rather than saying why your age gap isn't weird, sugests to me that deep down somewhere you think we might have a point.
I don't care that much either way but it is pretty weird considering that he reached the age of consent (16) whilst you were in infant school.
Original post by Cicerao
I find the fact that anyone cares so much as to make a comment about it perplexing. Personally I couldn't give a stuff about your lovelife or probable lack of, but I suppose I'm flattered at the unrequited interest about mine.
You find people that post comments..on TSR, about another students situation, perplexing?
You must be younger than 19, am I right?
Original post by gm15
Well that is quite defensive isn't it. If you truely thought we were 100% wrong you would of ignored us and let the thread continue. Attacking us and making assumptions about our lives, rather than saying why your age gap isn't weird, sugests to me that deep down somewhere you think we might have a point.
I don't care that much either way but it is pretty weird considering that he reached the age of consent (16) whilst you were in infant school.
I don't care that much either way but it is pretty weird considering that he reached the age of consent (16) whilst you were in infant school.
This.
Original post by gm15
Well that is quite defensive isn't it. If you truely thought we were 100% wrong you would of ignored us and let the thread continue. Attacking us and making assumptions about our lives, rather than saying why your age gap isn't weird, sugests to me that deep down somewhere you think we might have a point.
I don't care that much either way but it is pretty weird considering that he reached the age of consent (16) whilst you were in infant school.
I don't care that much either way but it is pretty weird considering that he reached the age of consent (16) whilst you were in infant school.
Oh no, clearly not.
As I said, I find it strange that you feel the need to comment about what two randomers get up to. As for why I'm not "saying why my age gap isn't weird"? Why should I? I don't have to defend myself or anything like that. You're more than welcome to think it's weird and carry those morals into your own lovelife, and I'll carry on with my morals in mine. No hard feelings.
Original post by Cicerao
Oh no, clearly not.
As I said, I find it strange that you feel the need to comment about what two randomers get up to. As for why I'm not "saying why my age gap isn't weird"? Why should I? I don't have to defend myself or anything like that. You're more than welcome to think it's weird and carry those morals into your own lovelife, and I'll carry on with my morals in mine. No hard feelings.
As I said, I find it strange that you feel the need to comment about what two randomers get up to. As for why I'm not "saying why my age gap isn't weird"? Why should I? I don't have to defend myself or anything like that. You're more than welcome to think it's weird and carry those morals into your own lovelife, and I'll carry on with my morals in mine. No hard feelings.
This is a messae board you donut! 99% of the people on here are sommenting about randomers!
It's not as if I randomly saw you and your peado bf in the street, and told you this!
That's like me saying; "I find it strange that you feel the need to comment on some randomers message about her Uni"..
The whole aim of TSR is to comment and give our views!
When he was at the age of consent, you were in infant school...what a catch! lol
Original post by Cicerao
Oh no, clearly not.
As I said, I find it strange that you feel the need to comment about what two randomers get up to. As for why I'm not "saying why my age gap isn't weird"? Why should I? I don't have to defend myself or anything like that. You're more than welcome to think it's weird and carry those morals into your own lovelife, and I'll carry on with my morals in mine. No hard feelings.
As I said, I find it strange that you feel the need to comment about what two randomers get up to. As for why I'm not "saying why my age gap isn't weird"? Why should I? I don't have to defend myself or anything like that. You're more than welcome to think it's weird and carry those morals into your own lovelife, and I'll carry on with my morals in mine. No hard feelings.
Well all i said originally was that Freakingout had a point. You are the one who started quoting me and saying I cared alot and that i must be a loser with no lovelife.
And to be fair i did say 1st that you could of just ignored Freakingout ...explaining your position was just a secondary option
And I didn't say your age gap was immoral...just weird.
ps i did say freaking out had gone OTT. Just because i agreed with his main point (almost 30 with somebody 19 is weird) doesn't mean i agreed with every one of his points
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op you ****ing suck.
Original post by freakingout!
When did you start goiung out with you bf?
You do realise, that when he was your age, you were 8 years old!
Seriously, that's like saying your future husband might be 8 years old at the moment...
Im also willing to bet he's not exactly fighting girls off, is he?
Has he ever had a relationship with a woman over the age of 25? (seriuously i'd like to know, but i doubt it)
30 and going out with a girl that is most likley younger than his baby sister or brother...
weird....
does he get along with your 19 year old friends?
Be honest, they think he's weird right?
You do realise, that when he was your age, you were 8 years old!
Seriously, that's like saying your future husband might be 8 years old at the moment...
Im also willing to bet he's not exactly fighting girls off, is he?
Has he ever had a relationship with a woman over the age of 25? (seriuously i'd like to know, but i doubt it)
30 and going out with a girl that is most likley younger than his baby sister or brother...
weird....
does he get along with your 19 year old friends?
Be honest, they think he's weird right?
They're both adults above the age of consent in the country they live in, get over it and stop making assumptions about people you don't know. Her age when her boyfriend reached the age of consent is totally irrelevant to their present situation. You people need to get out more.
Original post by orange zombie
They're both adults above the age of consent in the country they live in, get over it and stop making assumptions about people you don't know. Her age when her boyfriend reached the age of consent is totally irrelevant to their present situation. You people need to get out more.
Are you Cicerao's bf by any chance?
"you need people need to get out more"...Now who's making assumptions..
Only you have made an assumption, not me.
Im not assuming that when her BF was her age, ahe was 10 years old...That's a fact....
And the fact that the age gap is still, very weird, is very, very relevant to their present situation! She's not a fully grown adult....she's a young adult at best, but she's actually still a teenager tbh. Trust me, when you 19, you think your fully grown, but you are not. You will only learn this when you get older. (or just ask Cicerao's bf, i'm sue he's wise enough to know this lol
30 year old men do not normally go out with 19 year olds...correct?
Why do you think this is?
I'd love to hear your reason as to why these sorts of relationships aren't common.
BTW, are there any males that would let their 19 yeard daughter sleep around with a 30 year old? I don't think their are many. Why is this?
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Freakingout!- you wrote "Notice how it's never a 30 year old woman going out with a 19 year old boy?" -Ever heard of a Cougar?
And sure it is a bit sad for a 30 year old to date a 19 year old, but you dont know this person, should you really judge this person her much? Just as much as she shouldn't have such a strong judgement on students as a collective group.
Anonymous- I think it depends on where you go and what kind of person you are. So far my university life has allowed me to meet a great group of friends. It is not in the same league of immaturity as high school- but you have to have a little fun sometimes right?
Sure i go out, the student parties are fantastic and of course you don't have to dress up for them all and get so drunk you throw up! You meet loads of new people. I havn't met anyone who has judged me for socializing with people out of the uni. As for the pictures on facebook-it's called a privacy setting.
I think people will always gossip and talk about who is dating who. But as someone previously pointed out, if your to ashamed to let people know your dating someone, then maybe your heart isnt fully in it.
I suggest joining some societies, you don't have to be drunk for sport and debate teams! Most of all don't let those who take it to the excess make you feel like everyone is like that, I'm sure there are thousands of people that go to your univeristy and there will be some people out there who have similar views on these issues to your own.
And sure it is a bit sad for a 30 year old to date a 19 year old, but you dont know this person, should you really judge this person her much? Just as much as she shouldn't have such a strong judgement on students as a collective group.
Anonymous- I think it depends on where you go and what kind of person you are. So far my university life has allowed me to meet a great group of friends. It is not in the same league of immaturity as high school- but you have to have a little fun sometimes right?
Sure i go out, the student parties are fantastic and of course you don't have to dress up for them all and get so drunk you throw up! You meet loads of new people. I havn't met anyone who has judged me for socializing with people out of the uni. As for the pictures on facebook-it's called a privacy setting.
I think people will always gossip and talk about who is dating who. But as someone previously pointed out, if your to ashamed to let people know your dating someone, then maybe your heart isnt fully in it.
I suggest joining some societies, you don't have to be drunk for sport and debate teams! Most of all don't let those who take it to the excess make you feel like everyone is like that, I'm sure there are thousands of people that go to your univeristy and there will be some people out there who have similar views on these issues to your own.
Original post by freakingout!
Are you Cicerao's bf by any chance?
"you need people need to get out more"...Now who's making assumptions..
Only you have made an assumption, not me.
"you need people need to get out more"...Now who's making assumptions..
Only you have made an assumption, not me.
Hahaha, no. I'm not. I don't even live in the UK and English is not my first language, so I apologize for the misunderstanding. My "assumption" was just a joke. Maybe I should have put a smiley there.
Im not assuming that when her BF was her age, ahe was 10 years old...That's a fact....
I never denied that, and it's not the assumption I was talking about. That's a fact, but I don't see how that's relevant to their current relationship. They're now both adults and that's all that matters to the law. The assumption that you made is that because someone is 19 he or she must be immature, and that if a 30 year old guy dates someone 10 years younger, he must be a loser. In some cases you might be right, but they're just assumptions after all. I know more cases where the contrary is true rather than the situation that you are suggesting.
And the fact that the age gap is still, very weird, is very, very relevant to their present situation! She's not a fully grown adult....she's a young adult at best, but she's actually still a teenager tbh. Trust me, when you 19, you think your fully grown, but you are not. You will only learn this when you get older. (or just ask Cicerao's bf, i'm sue he's wise enough to know this lol
I wouldn't say it's weird. It's just not the norm the same way that it's not the norm to be gay in many cultures, where they say it's "just wrong" and when you ask them why, they cite The Bible or use circular reasoning. Also, I agree that many people are not "fully grown" when they're 19, but that's not always the case. I'm 25. I haven't changed a bit in the last 7 years and I consider myself to be... er.... "fully grown", whatever that means. I've seen 30 year olds that are more immature than some teenagers to be honest.
30 year old men do not normally go out with 19 year olds...correct?
Why do you think this is?
I'd love to hear your reason as to why these sorts of relationships aren't common.
BTW, are there any males that would let their 19 yeard daughter sleep around with a 30 year old? I don't think their are many. Why is this?
Why do you think this is?
I'd love to hear your reason as to why these sorts of relationships aren't common.
BTW, are there any males that would let their 19 yeard daughter sleep around with a 30 year old? I don't think their are many. Why is this?
You worry too much about what's "normal". Something not being common does not necessarily mean that it's wrong or weird. It's just unusual in your society, but in others it's common practice. The only reason why 30 year old men do not normally go out with 19 year olds in the UK is because it might be seen as weird just for the sake of tradition. No offense intended, but your argument is almost implying a textbook logical fallacy. I'd love to hear your reasons as to why these relationships aren't common (even though they're more common than you think) without appealing to tradition. One valid reason that comes to my mind is that they might be in different stages of life, but with the current trend of people as old as 40 going back to uni, things are changing a lot lately.
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