Bi-curious friend asked to help fulfil curiosity

OP

I thought this would be a 'strange' one

Reply 2

Leave it. I have no idea what they're playing at, but they're obviously freaked out (by what they suggested? By you agreeing? By realising their same-sex attractions? By how fast everything moved? Are you sure it was them - did someone else hack their msn/Facebook and do a very elaborate frape, or did you talk to them face to face?) and not wanting anything to do with you. I wouldn't push it. Leave them in the moment to work through whatever mysterious stuff is going on in their head, and then try being friendly again in a couple of weeks' time.

Reply 3

Hedgehunter

12

Bi-curious = South Park. :biggrin:

Reply 4

lekky

19

Really strange. I'd go round to where they live and say something like "look, your sexual preferences are none of my business, obvioulsy it was a bad idea for me to agree to something and I felt a bit uncomfortable with it seeing as we're friends. Please stop being weird."

Reply 5

Original post by Reml

How you can even consider the act of homosexuality is disgusting and appalling, and worse still for actually encouraging it - this person should seek help immediately

Inb4 homophobia, 'you are seducing straight people, how dare you' etc. It's just boring, we've read it all a thousand times before, and it means a load of LGBT+ people get up in arms with you, then you reply back, then so do other people, and the whole thing goes off topic into a massive flamefest where all the OP wanted was advice with their love/sex life.

Reply 6

zoeaw

14

Oh.. Are you a girl or a guy?
Plus how come it had to be in the week?

Reply 7

dmz

17

i must try this on a girl. I think I'm straight but I'm not sure, help me out?

If only :rolleyes:

Reply 8

Alpharius

Not really. Changed his mind and is (for some stupid reason) now highly embarrased whenever he's reminded of you.

That, or he's homophobic. I think thats not as likely.

Reply 9

Reml

Original post by kerily

Inb4 homophobia, 'you are seducing straight people, how dare you' etc. It's just boring, we've read it all a thousand times before, and it means a load of LGBT+ people get up in arms with you, then you reply back, then so do other people, and the whole thing goes off topic into a massive flamefest where all the OP wanted was advice with their love/sex life.

Well he asked for advice, and i answered from a Christian standpoint.

Reply 10

nathan2010

1

Sounds like he either got too scared or realised he was straight and is now (understandably) embarrassed by the situation and trying to delete you from his life and pretend it never happened. I'd just let him if I was you but if you really want to still be friends let him know you won't tell anyone and never mention it again.

Reply 11

diamonddust

Original post by kerily

Leave it. I have no idea what they're playing at, but they're obviously freaked out (by what they suggested? By you agreeing? By realising their same-sex attractions? By how fast everything moved? Are you sure it was them - did someone else hack their msn/Facebook and do a very elaborate frape, or did you talk to them face to face?) and not wanting anything to do with you. I wouldn't push it. Leave them in the moment to work through whatever mysterious stuff is going on in their head, and then try being friendly again in a couple of weeks' time.

The bit in bold is making me laugh! :biggrin:

Sounds like your friend is really scared now that there's the possibility it might become a reality. If he isn't talking to you in a few days/weeks, I'd call him up and tell him (just in case he didn't realise) that it's all called off and that he can start talking to you again because you respect his decision to go back on his suggestion or something.

(edited 13 years ago)

Reply 12

Original post by Reml

Well he asked for advice, and i answered from a Christian standpoint.

Have you actually read the whole 'love and tolerance' bit of the New Testament, or did you mysteriously skip the Gospels?

Original post by diamonddust

The bit in bold is making me laugh! :biggrin:

It would actually be the most genius frape ever - if I were a far more horrible person, I would be quite tempted :awesome:

Reply 13

OP

Original post by kerily

Leave it. I have no idea what they're playing at, but they're obviously freaked out (by what they suggested? By you agreeing? By realising their same-sex attractions? By how fast everything moved? Are you sure it was them - did someone else hack their msn/Facebook and do a very elaborate frape, or did you talk to them face to face?) and not wanting anything to do with you. I wouldn't push it. Leave them in the moment to work through whatever mysterious stuff is going on in their head, and then try being friendly again in a couple of weeks' time.

Nah, not a frape, they said things that only they would know, not being 'out', and the mannerisms were quite alike.

I only said yes because they seemed pretty desperate about the whole thing, and I probably shouldn't have decided whilst not being sober.

It wasn't as if I screamed 'YES YES YES YES' (which, heck, I would've in an ideal world). It took about 30 minutes of asking them why and making sure, and then the final agreement only came when they were like 'forget it, i'll never know'

Meh. If anything, a frape would be a relief.

Reply 14

Reml

Original post by kerily

Have you actually read the whole 'love and tolerance' bit of the New Testament, or did you mysteriously skip the Gospels?

It would actually be the most genius frape ever - if I were a far more horrible person, I would be quite tempted :awesome:

No offence but i find you instructing me on how to read my own bible rather offensive, have some damn courtesy and respect for religious belief.

Reply 15

diamonddust

Original post by kerily

Have you actually read the whole 'love and tolerance' bit of the New Testament, or did you mysteriously skip the Gospels?

It would actually be the most genius frape ever - if I were a far more horrible person, I would be quite tempted :awesome:

If you ever do become a horrible person... can you take screenshots? :tongue:

Reply 16

OP

Original post by nathan2010

Sounds like he either got too scared or realised he was straight and is now (understandably) embarrassed by the situation and trying to delete you from his life and pretend it never happened. I'd just let him if I was you but if you really want to still be friends let him know you won't tell anyone and never mention it again.

I dunno, he said he was curious a couple of years ago, and I dunno if he'd come to a sudden realisation in the space of a few seconds.

He'll probably think about it for a while then all will return to normal. That, or I've lost a good friend for trying to 'help'

Reply 17

OP

Original post by diamonddust

I second this :wink:

Blurr the names though, have some compassion.

Reply 18

Original post by Anonymous

Nah, not a frape, they said things that only they would know, not being 'out', and the mannerisms were quite alike.

Oh damn. Yeah, it probably was them, then. (Not that I thought it was likely to be a frape, but if people only talk to you over the internet, you can never be sure...)

I only said yes because they seemed pretty desperate about the whole thing, and I probably shouldn't have decided whilst not being sober.

Probably not, but we're all human. It's perfectly natural to think 'this seems like the stuff of my dreams!' and then want to grab it with both hands - if you're attracted to members of the same sex, you spend so much time thinking 'damn, I wish you were gay' about straight people that if someone even drops a hint that they might be gay, you're all :moon:

and you can't always think rationally. Don't blame yourself - I doubt there's many people out there who would turn down a chance to get with someone they liked who also liked them.

Original post by Reml

No offence but i find you instructing me on how to read my own bible rather offensive, have some damn courtesy and respect for religious belief.

I love how you're assuming that I'm an atheist. I just don't know how anyone can get through all the bits where Jesus is all 'you should love and care for everyone, and leave the judging up to God' (paraphrased heavily :awesome:

) and read this as an endorsement of homophobia. Read what you want into your own Bible, but don't go around saying that it definitively condemns homosexuality.

Original post by diamonddust

If you ever do become a horrible person... can you take screenshots? :tongue:

Of course

I think it would be a bit harsh for the person you led on, though :tongue:

Reply 19

diamonddust